elcome back mamas, or welcome to any new mamas we may have with us today. Y'all I hope you enjoyed last week with Sarah light. Oh, my gosh! It was so good, right if you did not get to hear Sarah and all of her tips on time, saving on just prioritizing your life your day. It was so so good. We are not having a guest this week. We will have a guest next week, so stay tuned for that it's Tiffany Coleman. It was also an amazing interview. So I cannot wait for you to hear that. But today we are talking about something that, as you know, I like to keep this podcast.
Just free, flowing and to kind of go with the ebbs and the flows of my life, the world, what is happening. And right now is this. This keeps like coming at my face, like you've got to talk about trusting the process.
And what does that mean trusting the process right? Because, you know, for a lot of us trusting the process is hard, right? It's sometimes very hard for people who are type a which, as you know, if you've listened at all, you know I am Type A, and so I tend to like to control things. And you know me. Giving the control over to God and surrendering surrender is another big word that I absolutely love in terms of. Well, a lot of things. But today's episode is about trusting the process. And we're gonna start with a quote from Bob Goff. embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won't have a title until much later.
So embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters of our lives won't have a title until much later. So with this quote, he's saying.
Trust the process right? Just take the steps. Whatever you're doing. If you're doing work, if you're doing work on yourself. If you are raising kids right, trust the process. Trust that you are going to take the actions needed, that you are going to know what to do in the moment and take the action and do it right, because you have to continue living your life
and trusting that you're going in the right direction. And there's a lot of different ways that we can do this right like I talk about finding your true North and so trusting the process could mean like that you are. You know what your truth to true true North is easy for me to say. You know what your true North is now you know what those values are. You know what those core values and those underlying passions and drives and the things that you want to be most important to you in your life are, and you are living your life in such a way that is having that. Be your litmus test. Be your guide, be your compass right? Your true North is, are those things it could also mean trusting. The process could also mean like when it comes to parenting right when it comes to parenting. I think about trusting the process. And I'm like, Oh, my gosh! You have to trust the process so much when you are a mom when you are a new mom, especially like I think about, you know, leaving the hospital with a baby and just driving home. Just the drive home right is a huge. It feels like this monumental task, like, I remember, I gave birth outside of my State, and you have to cross a river on a bridge.
And so it is like, you know, the Cincinnati, the Ohio River. You're crossing from Cincinnati into Kentucky, and you are driving across this bridge, and I remember thinking there's nowhere for him to go if something goes wrong and like I am in the back seat with the baby next to me, just like, you know. Go slower, go slower like we are going so slow, which I always say it's too. It's dangerous to go too slow on the expressway, and yet I felt like we were flying, and we were not even really going the speed limit to get home with this baby right.
You have to trust the process like, just trust that you are going to get home. And you're you're now going to have to care for this other human that you have no idea how to care for. But something happens. Your instincts kick in, and somehow you know how to feed this baby. You know how to clothe it. You know how to give it a bath.
You know. I I remember thinking, Oh, my gosh! On this 1st bath, like what what am I gonna do? Am I going to hurt her like? Is this? How is this gonna work, you know? And you just have to move forward and trust the process. It goes even deeper when they start like growing up right. And they're crawling, and you're having to.
You're trying to encourage them to walk right, and they're falling. And you know you want to. You want to scoop them up and like not let them get hurt right. And of course you do all the things that you can to protect them from getting hurt when they're starting to walk, but you know they're going to fall down, and sometimes right, it's going to hurt. It's going to hurt. But what do you want them to do? You want them to get back up and try again because you want them to walk right? And so we don't. We don't tell our babies not to get back up and try again right, because we know the ultimate goal. You just have to trust the process right? And this keeps going on and on. I think of potty training. You know, like we had a really rough go with poly training, you guys, I remember, we followed like, I tried. I tried the books. I tried the systems. I tried M. And M's I tried rewards. I tried the whole taking.
I'm laughing because oh, my gosh! I tried taking away everything so we like. We didn't have any clothes on her, so she was like trying to potty train with nothing on We're just letting her run around the house, and if she peed. She we like, you know, she already knew how to go to the bathroom on the potty. It's just she would choose, because she didn't wanna take a break, or whatever she would just choose to go in her diaper because she could. And so we're like, we're just going to let her walk around with nothing on, and then, if she goes, you know we tried to like. Keep her in the hardwood floor area as opposed to the carpet just in case.
But I remember the 1st time that she went, and she didn't make it to the potty how traumatized she was. And I was like, Okay, yeah, this is not for us like this. It wasn't because of the mess. It was because of how traumatized she was that she created all of that all over the floor. She was just like, Oh, my! Gosh! P. Went everywhere, you know it was all over the place, and you know, she thought it was so disgusting and and it was hard for me not to like laugh right. And but you just had to trust the process. And I remember, after we got her potty trained.
Then we were bringing home a new baby, and what happened was when she saw that we were changing the baby's diapers all the time she was in pull ups at this point, but she reverted. She reverted back. She's like, well, they're changing their, you know. They're changing her diaper. So they're gonna change my diaper again, too. And she totally reverted back. And we just had to be like, Okay, you know what this is, gonna be how it is. But you know, we're just going to let her make the decision on her own, because we just are. That's we just trusted the process, and what happened was, she decided on her own when we started. Stop making a big deal about it. and we stopped, you know, like kind of we didn't punish her. We didn't, you know, say anything, really? We just made her kind of take care of it, like, Okay, well, then, you go, and you change it, and you do this and and you know she dirty dry. But obviously we had to like make. We had to help her, but but you know we kind of made it her responsibility at that point, and she decided she didn't like it. You know she wanted to. She wanted to potty train. She wanted to go on the potty at that point in time, and that was amazing. And so we kind of took that approach with the second one, and we trusted the process. We were like, you know what? She'll do it when she's ready. She'll do it when she's ready. And she was going to preschool, and I was telling her, you know.
and it was twos preschool at the time. So we were like, you know, it was early, you know. So a lot of kids were were not potty trained that were at the at this preschool that were in their twos. Most weren't, I would say, and we said to her, we were like, you know, they'll have to change you if you go in your diaper, but you can choose to go on the potty. It's up to you right like. And so and so she she did it. She started as soon as she started going to that two's preschool, and I think with Number 2, and they're seeing number one. You know. They're seeing them go on the potty. I think that helps them as well with the whole process. But it is about trusting the process and trusting that they're going to do what's best for them. Right? And so. And that's what we decided ultimately with. Our 1st was that you know it was her call, like she was going to be the one. We can't make her do anything, and you can't make anybody do anything right. This is why we have to trust the process because we have to let go of the control. Let go of kind of what we are wanting to see happen. Let go of the way we think that everything should go. not focus on the results. That's something big right now that I'm trying to tell myself all the time, because I am wired to think about the results. It was, you know, I have a sales background all of the things you set the goals. You have your budgets, you know. You got to hit them all of that. So I am just wired that way, but I'm trying to not focus on the results and trying to just focus on the actions the day to day, trusting the process.
And it continues. And it's gonna continue through life, like I think about when when I I never thought that I could let them go to school right like I was like, oh, my, gosh! What am I gonna do with myself like they're gonna be gone all day. I'm just gonna be a wreck the whole day like, I'm not gonna be able to do anything because I'm just gonna be crying. And all of this. And did I cry when I when I took when I took Gabriela her 1st day, absolutely, even though she'd been going to daycare.
But that was just like a couple of hours a couple of times a week, you know. And it wasn't daycare. It was like preschool kind of like daycare, but it was preschool and and I was okay with that. But then, when it came to like a whole day without her, I like bowled my eyes out and was so worried, and she came home, and she had loved it. And from that day forward it was like, Okay. you know what I I have some time, and I still had another one at home at that time. So, but it it did free up some things we could do some things. It wasn't like entertaining her. You know, while I still had Michaela. And actually Michaela was in her preschool some of the days. So I did actually get some free time. And so it wound up, wound up. Being this time that I could focus on my business. I could focus on myself. I could get some things done that were really hard to do with 2 kids in tow, right? And so it was all about trusting the process like I was so worried about it. I was so worked up about it. But then what happened? We did it, and it. It works out and it works out. And you think about it. And like all these steps in life are preparing you for the next right, like all these hards, are preparing you for the next, like the preschool, was preparing for the school, and then the school would be preparing for. Oh, I just remember, too, like this just popped into my head like letting them ride in the car with other people that for me was like, I don't do well with that. Still, sometimes I don't do well with that. But riding in the car with another person. You know they're now your life. Their child's life is in their hands. and if they aren't paying attention with cell phones nowadays, like I I even remember, though having this anxiety with my parents at first, st like, what if I you know I have all these? What ifs like? Especially when I was like in my depressed like place where I was not like fully thinking properly. You know I would have these thoughts like well, what if something happened when they were with them. Would I ever be able to forgive, like my mom or my dad if they did have an accident? And something happened to my baby like would I ever like? Not only would there be something happened to my baby, but would I ever be the same with my parent?
Right, like just crazy thoughts like that which you know. Honestly, I guess. Aren't that crazy? But like no, that's not the way we should think right like that's not. We need to trust the process. We need to be able to release the control and just move forward because they are not going to be attached to you at all times, and these little things that we do over time prepare us for the days when right they leave, or, for goodness sakes! I now can't even think about like them driving like that. I'm always like, Oh, my gosh! I don't know how you do it to these moms that you know, their kids start driving. I'm like, I don't know how you do it, because I can't even think about my child driving right like I would be, I will be a nervous wreck like I will be a basket case like, will you ever will I ever sleep again like you know? Things like that go through my head, or what about them going on a date one day? Right?
So all of these things, I think I'll be like that, mom. That's instead of the dad, like, you know, with the rifle or whatever like. We don't even own guns. But like I will be the mom that will be like threatening the boys instead of the dad he'll be. He'll give him the eye. But you know, I think actually we both might be threatening the voice.
But I'm just saying we have to trust our kids right. We have to trust the process. We have to trust these things. And this relates to so many areas of our life, and just with you know the anxiety, the heightened state of everything right now.
you have to kind of take the pressure off of yourself and take the pressure off of the results and take the pressure off of even like the future, and just focus on what you want, focus on your intention and trust the process, and that it's going to work out like, you know your intuition. Whatever it is. I I wanted to read. I came across this list of how to trust the process. It was on our mindfullife.com.
and it has just this list that I thought was really good on how to trust the process. And it says, Focus on what you can control. Right? That's all we can do is focus on what we can control. So not like completely letting go of everything and giving control to your child or giving, you know.
control to something else. But do what you can do and then trust the process. Right? Okay. Number 2. Find lessons in each failure. So you know, we are going to fail, but find the lesson in that and then move forward and keep trusting the process.
Write down what's on your mind. So this is a big one. It's a great way to get things out is just to write things down. And sometimes when you're in the middle of something, you can write it down, and when, even as you're writing it, you realize how ridiculous you sound when you're writing it down, you're like, Oh, my gosh! Why am I being so like ridiculous about this right? And you you just writing it down helps, you see, like through that.
I'm gonna call it a crazy lens that you're putting on your glasses right like not the rose colored glasses you're putting like this crazy lens on your glasses that you're looking through. This like always like, what could happen like these? What if lenses that you might be putting on something? Or you're trying to trying to again focus on the result, or what you think might happen versus like, what is truth? What is reality? What is likely to happen? Right? Embrace a growth, mindset, embrace a growth mindset. This one is huge, you guys and I talk about it all the time again. That's what we should always be striving to do is to grow, and the way that we grow is by taking the action is by doing those things that scare us is by trusting the process. I've said it, I think like something might happen where I keep saying the same thing over and over again, like you guys are. Gonna finally, it's gonna sink in like trusting the process. I'm gonna try not to say it as many times moving forward. Okay, track your progress. So track. Your progress is different than you know, focusing on the results right? Because you want to see where you are right. Like, there is a place you want to go and tracking. Your progress is good, right? You're not 100 focused on the result. You're focused on the actions, but tracking the progress helps
in your mindset. It helps so that you know that you're on the right track, because, like, when we talked about finding lessons in each failure, if you're tracking your progress, then you can see if what you're doing is working or not, like all those times when we were doing the potty training and trying different methods and whatnot, you know, if we were tracking on, if it was working, or if it wasn't, and we looked back. And that's actually how we decided
to, you know. Let Gabriella decide on her own is because what was more working was when she had the control, instead of us trying to like, bribe her, reward her, or whatever.
So tracking your progress is a good thing. Just don't completely focus on the result. It's not about the result. It's about the progress right? Celebrate every small win. So this is big, you guys, and it's something that I'm bad with, like, it's something that I am perfecting. It's not perfecting. I'm not going to use that word. It's something that I'm getting better at. It's something I'm learning to do because it really does it. It helps it helps you to. It's kind of like this little
endorphin rush that you get when you celebrate the win. So at 1st it seems very, almost like it seemed really dumb to me. Right like I'm not. I'm not where I want to be. So why am I celebrating this little thing or whatnot like? Why am I focused on this little thing? This isn't the win that I wanted or whatnot.
And what I realized is that you celebrating the small things it it makes you feel good. Number one, and you did win like you are taking the steps like. That's how you get there. Yes, there's a result that you're going for. Yes, there is something that you're shooting towards, and you know, if it's losing 20 pounds if it's getting your child Potty trained, if it's whatever. It is
growing. Your podcast, right like, that's what I'm trying to do. But you are trying to get to that final goal. But what happens is if you're not celebrating your wins along the way you are having wins, you are having wins all the time right, and if you celebrate them, then it just tricks your mind into wanting to get another win because you're gonna celebrate it like I
I came up with a touchdown dance. You guys. Now you know me. If you know me, I guess you may not know me, but I love to dance, and I will, just if I'm in any kind of a mood. I can pop on some music and just start breaking it down. And by the end of the song I've changed my mood.
But I came up with this touchdown dance that I can do anytime that I have a win, and even if it seems like a little small win, if I do my touchdown dance, you guys, it's like it sends off this like endorphin. And I'm like, yes, yes, I did do that right like it's like heck. Yes. I did do that, and it it just it gives you it, it. It gives you this feeling, that. And it's not just a feeling like it actually was a win, right? So it's not really tricking your mind. I keep wanting to say that it's tricking your mind into doing the thing that you want to to keep doing. But that is that is true. Like you. Wanna keep doing these actions that bring you closer to your goals.
You want to do these actions that are bringing you closer to where you want to be in your life, or or whatever it is, or where you want your child to be right, and you can celebrate the wins with them right like, if they're making steps towards something, you can celebrate the wins with them. and you can celebrate the wins for yourself in your own life, too.
Okay, so have a cheerleader. This is a good one. So if you have someone that you can tell, you know what's going on, or or what you're working for, or what whatever it is, and they can just kind of be your little cheerleader, and you know it's it's good, I think, to have somebody who will tell you like, either way, you know whether they're just cheering you on, or
whether, like you're, you should be making some more movement today than you are. I like to have that person, too, because I think that's a good cheerleader, right like is to pep you up when you might not be as peppy that day. And so that's a good one. Ditch. Perfectionism is the next one ditch perfectionism, and that is something that I think we all
can take a lesson from and is hard for everyone is we all want to be perfect, and guess what
nobody is. Nobody is perfect God is perfect, but outside of that we are not God, and we are not perfect, and so we need to ditch that perfectionistic way of looking at things and know that again. It's about trusting the process, because things aren't always going to go the way that you think they should go.
but just trust that it's gonna work out the way that it's supposed to work out. And you're going to be when it's all finished, exactly where you want to be, right exactly where you were meant to be. and then the last one is put in consistent effort.
And that is so true. You have to consistently put in the effort because you can't just work at something here or there, or you know, if you're working on, whatever it is, whether it's the potty training or whether it's a goal for yourself, you know, like I talked about losing weight, or you know a business goal, or, you know, starting a business, whatever it is. You have to take consistent action towards that, because you can trust the process when you're doing that right. But if you're not taking that consistent action, you can't just like it's like manifesting right. You can't just like walk around claiming things and expect it to just happen right? Like you have to. Actually, you know, visualize things and take action towards them. And then it will happen right?
So the last quote I wanted to read is from Winnie the pooh! And it says, life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved. And when I read that I was like, I have to end the podcast. With this quote, because I think that a lot of times, that's the way that we look at life is that it's a problem to be solved like we always are looking at these problems, right that we have to solve.
And it's a journey. Life is a journey to be experienced. We shouldn't be constantly trying to solve like, yes, I believe in solving problems. And yes, I believe every problem is figure out. But when we're caught in the this needs to be fixed or focused on problems as opposed to focused on solutions and focused on what we can do about something. I think that's what this quote means to me is that it's a journey to be experienced in that way where we can take the action towards what we want to happen.
And it's not about focusing on what is going wrong. It's about focusing on what we want, right? It's not a problem to be solved. We do not want to focus on what's wrong or what's going bad, or you know that kind of thing. What we want to focus on is what we want and what we're working towards and experience it. Live your life. and it's a journey.
So trust the process. Alright. Y'all, that's all I have for you this week, like I said tune in next week we have Tiffany Coleman.  Tiffany is with Forward and Grace. She's a coach, She wears a lot of hats. She's a mom newer, mom. I think her son is one now, and she is going to be sharing a lot of golden nuggets. We talked about people pleasing boundaries, a lot of different things. You are going to want to tune in, to hear, for sure, but until then I will see you next week.

​Welcome back, mamas, or welcome to any new mamas we may have with us on this 4th of July week. I wanted to give you a short and sweet but impactful message, and I use that word on purpose, because this week I have been thinking a lot, reflecting a lot, taking time to really think about the impact that we have on other people. So I I think I've been. I've been talking to you a little bit about how I have like time issues. I have issues with time. Up until this moment I have been habitually late, and I have been trying to change that. And I've also been trying to be more present in the moment, and I talked about the struggle of being more present in the moment, and then also trying to defeat that, you know, being late. you know, stigma or being late. I don't know. Habit that I have like built up in my head. And I think I've gotten to the root cause of why I'm late. But that's not what this is about. This is actually about impact. Which is why I said this hopefully, will have a good impact on you and the impact that we have on others that I know. We all know this innately, that we have an impact on other people, but I feel like a lot of times we don't think about the what's the word. I'm looking for the breadth, the the depth, the you know, the impact that we have a lot of times we may take for granted, or we may not notice. And I'm Gonna start with a quote. This quote is from Jane Goodall, and it says you cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make. So I love that right, like everything that you do makes a difference. And we get to decide right? Something else. I love that we get to decide what kind of a difference we want to make on this world. But the bottom line is that everything that we do makes a difference, and sometimes we may feel like we aren't making an impact, or we aren't making a difference, or that you know who are we? And I know we have a lot of worthiness conversations on this podcast and really in life. Nowadays, you know, everyone is is saying, you know, or is trying to believe that they are worthy of things worthy of rest, worthy and that's a that's a word that we use a lot, but we don't have to be worthy of anything to make an impact. You guys, what I mean by that is you're innately worthy of talked about that before. But you are making an impact. Whether or not, you want to or not like your non presence makes an impact. Your presence makes an impact. Your actions impact others. Everything that you do or you don't do things you choose to do or do not choose to do makes an impact on other people also, possibly on the universe, like everything we do leaves a mark. Everything that we do makes a difference. And so what kind of a difference is it that we want to make? And I I have been thinking about this, because me being late, right impacts others in such a way that I never really see or feel. Because why? Because I'm late. I'm not there, and a lot of times people don't say anything to me when I am late, because it's been happening for so long that, like Danielle's late all the time, like my friends, have a joke that they will actually tell me the time that is like 15 min earlier, so that I might actually show up on time. Because I'm not typically, you know, 15 min late. But it's definitely a possibility that I am 15, maybe even 20 min late. It's you know I'm I have been. I'm trying not to say I am late because I'm trying to change that right. And so I am usually not on time, and probably up to 5 min late like that's like my usual, but it's not unusual, you know. It is not like once in a blue moon. It's probably once in a while that I am more than that late, and that has an effect on people, and it's 1 that you may not see if you're not me right, because I am not there. So I don't know what's happening when I'm late. I don't know what kind of anxiety that may be causing someone who is always on time, or who thinks it's important to be on time, and not that I don't think that it's important to be on time because I do. It's just that I design my life in such a way that the impact that that has is that I'm usually late. I try to fit as many things as I can on my calendar, and if I have any like down space, then I go and create more things to do to fill that space as opposed to. you know, like resting, or, you know, maybe fitting something in that space that I know how much time it's going to take me to do, and I know I have enough time to do it right. I tend to just fill the space with something and not really plan for the fact of I'm going to be late. I might have 3 h, so I'm supposed to be somewhere, and I'm like, Oh, I can do this and this and this. And then. next thing you know, I'm late because of my poor planning skills right? And that has an impact and possibly an impact that I have never recognized or never even considered, that I may be disrupting other people's lives by being late, and it never really even occurred to me, because, like I said, people expect it, and so they don't really say anything to me. you know. Call me out or hold me accountable, or anything like that. It's just almost expected that I'm late, but it probably has created a lot of situations where things could have been different if I was on time, or you know, people might not have been anxious. Right? Like the energy in the room or the energy for what we're doing, or the energy may be different. because if I was on time, but because I'm late, there's a different energy, right? So everything that we do. I just use that as an example to drive home the point that even sometimes things that we don't think about that might have an impact on others or might have an lasting impact like, say on your kids, because my kids, even like when we were we were doing something this weekend. And you know, my kids were just like, Oh, yeah, mommy's always late, or whatever. So they they know that about me. And you know, depending on how they are, they might pick up. Okay? Well, then, I can always be late, or they might see others reactions in a way that I don't, and they might pick up on the fact that they don't ever want to be late, right? So they have to do everything they can to be early. So things can go one way or another right? They're either gonna pick up our bad habits, or they're going to have such an aversion to the habit that we have that they are opposite like they're they're, you know, determined that they will not be late. And so that is like going to be a trigger for them. If people are late right. so we can create these things in our children that we may not even recognize and definitely don't want to create right? And so I'm gonna read another quote, And this one is from Greg Graffin. Greg Graffin says, whether you reach a lot of people or have a profound impact on a few people, their memories of you are your afterlife. And so I was like, Oh, gosh! Even that takes a little le level deeper where you have. You know whether you reach a lot of people like, I have the potential to reach a lot of people with my podcast right because i'm putting it out there people, anyone can listen to it. If they have apple or spotify, or anywhere you listen to a podcast you could get this and so. But even if you don't. If you have a big platform or a big audience, or you don't do a podcast or have some platform where you could be heard, you are gonna impact even a few people. And the way that you impact them is going to leave it's going to be an impact. Whether or not you're still here, or whether you're gone. So what kind of an impact do you want people to have about you? What kind of memories do you want people to have about you after you're gone, and these are things to like. These are deep. This might be a little bit deep for this week. That's holiday week that I wanted to keep short and sweet and to the point. But I've been really reflecting on this and really thinking about the impact that our actions have on others. And I'm Gonna read. One more quote is, this is from Jackie Robinson, and it says a life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives. A life is not important. And this goes back to our worthiness right? Except the in the impact it has on others lives. And so your life. He's essentially saying your life isn't important unless it impacts others. And what I'm also saying is that every life impacts others, whether you want it to or not. Right? So he's saying, life is not important unless you're impacting others lives. And that can be negatively or positively right. The what your actions, what you do. It has an impact on others lives, and your life wouldn't be important unless it did right. That's what he's saying, Jackie Robinson, saying, if your life didn't have an impact on others, and how would it be able to be important? And and I'm also also in that same breath. Want you to hear and want it to land, that you can't not have an impact, because even your decision to not participate or your decision to not show up somewhere or your decision. You know things that you don't do also have an impact on others. Right? So you are going to have an impact on others' lives just by living it. And so I want us to consider what kind of an impact we want to have on our own lives on the lives of others, on the lives of our children. And I want you to just like, take some time and consider things that you may think have been no big deal, but are something that you like being late is something that I've wanted to change forever. I just made a decision that this was something I was going to change, and I was going to make a decision. And just this one thing has led me to. It's been like a breakthrough right? Like I've been having these moments where I'm like, oh, my! Gosh! Me! Being late has impacted so many things throughout my life that I I didn't realize, and it probably I know, and not it. Probably it has impacted others in ways that I will never be able to know right? So I just want us to like. Consider that and think about that. I'm going to read one more quote, and this one is by Sasha, a Zevedo, a Zebedo, and she says, when you love people and have the desire to make a profound, positive impact upon the world, then you will have accomplished the meaning to life. When you love people and have the desire to make a profound, positive impact on the world, then you will have accomplished the meaning to life. And I I truly I love that I love. You know I love people, I I do. I have a heart for people. I want everyone to get along. I want to, you know everyone to be in peace. I want to spread love. And I I you know, I believe, that our love comes from God right? It comes from above, and I believe that God is love, and I believe that he lives in me, and I'm able to shine that out to others, and I want everyone to experience that same love that I experience from God and to receive it themselves. And I want to be like a beacon for that love and have the desire, she's saying, when you love people and you have the desire to make a profound, positive impact upon the world. And I think we all have that desire right. We have that desire, whether we have the desire to make an impact on the entire world or just our world, right? Like, everyone wants to make a profound, positive impact on the people in their lives. They want to impact the people that they love, and the people that they hold close to them, whether it be their children or their immediate family, or whomever, but they want to affect them positively right. That's what we all want. Then you will have accomplished the meaning to life. and I think that that is true, because what life is about isn't about all the things and all the stuff. It is really about impacting other humans, making everyone feel special, feel, loved, feel, seen, feel, appreciated. And I just want you to know that you have that ability. Right now you can make the decision that you are going to positively impact your children yourself, your own life, the lives of those in your world. and you can shine your love and your light on them. And I just wanted to. I don't know. Hopefully inspire someone to take a positive step in one way or another towards the impact that you want to have and away from the impact that you don't want to have, and that can sometimes be really hard, like it is really, really hard. There's a lot of work that is going into me working on not being late, right and or being on time, I should quit saying, not being late, right, and say being on time, because that's what I want to be is on time. So I'm going to start speaking that right. And so that is one step that you can take is start speaking and start thinking about what you do want instead of what you don't want, and that alone will have an impact. And then, just realizing the impact that that those things that you're doing in your life right now have on others, that you may not want to be having the impact of thinking about that and internalizing that and thinking, okay, how can I positively change and have a positive impact on these people that are in my world by changing that one habit that might give you like another reason to change right. That might give you another reason to try to take that habit and kick it right. Kick it to the curb. so I hope this has made sense to you. I hope it has landed it. It is coming from a place of love, and it's coming from a place of me, working through this and realizing the impact that our actions have on others, and realizing, you know, the impact that we may not even be realizing we're having on others. So I want you to know that we will go back to having guests next week next week. I've got Sarah from soul planners. She will be on the podcast next Thursday. Stay tuned for that. She has some great tips for planning, helping me to be on time right? Like giving you lots of tools, not just for being on time, but for your life and planning your day and being less stressed through your day, and so you'll definitely want to tune in for that. I will be back on Tuesday with another episode, but till then y'all.

Welcome back, mamas, or welcome to any new mamas we may have with us today. You guys, I want to talk to you this week about something again that has been just like a theme through the last week of my life that I now want to share with you, because I believe that it is it's something that I've always known. Again. I feel like I've been sharing these things with you that I've always known. But I'm getting like to a deeper level with lately. And it's this It's this concept of surrendering. And we I'm gonna start with a quote that that is from Carl Gustav Jung. Who says what you resist persists? What you resist persists. Now we've all heard that right, like what you resist, persist. But what does it mean? And like? How do we take the knowledge of that? What you resist persists and use it to help us. So what I want to? I'm gonna start off with a couple of stories like things that came to mind and that are just coming to mind right now. That I want to use as examples to drive home this point of what you resist persists, and how we can use that to our advantage. Right? Because what we're resisting a lot of times is something that we don't want. But sometimes what we're resisting is actually something that we do want, that we don't even know that we're resisting it, or we know we're resisting it. But we don't know why. So the 1st example I'm going to use is like something that we don't want right like. So when we are sick, right? And we don't want to be sick. So that's like a super easy example. Because when you're sick, nobody wants to be sick right? And so, and a lot of us don't have time to be sick right like. Let's be over. Y'all, we don't have time to be sick, but we tend to resist being sick, and then what happens is, the sickness persists right? So it is, then kind of coming on stronger. or we're resisting it so much so that it's all we're thinking about. It's like, I think of that. Analogy. I don't know if you when you're driving a car. If you were learning to drive a car or anything, if you learned that like, if you're driving your car and it starts to like, it's raining and you start to swerve or you lose control. And you're hydro planning. and there's like a telephone poll or something coming up. And you're like, don't let me hit the telephone, Poll. Don't let me hit the telephone pole, and like there could be like a field right like a huge field. And there's 1 telephone poll, and all you can think about is, don't let me hit the telephone pole. And what happens? You hit the telephone pole right? Because that's all you were thinking about. Like, you know, it goes back to. I feel like, I say this thing every week. But where focus goes, energy flows. And that is so true because we're thinking about the telephone pulse of what are we gonna get? We're gonna get the telephone pole right? Whereas if you were thinking of, I'm steering clear, I'm steering clear. I'm going straight into the field like. That's where you're aiming for. That's where you're looking. That's where your intention is. That's where you're gonna go right. But we don't think of like we are resisting being sick right? We don't think of. Well, that's where we want to go right. We don't think of like saying we're not gonna resist being sick right like. I always just deny that I'm sick, right like, if if anyone asks like I'm not sick, right? I that's how I deal with being sick is I'm not sick right like, unless someone makes me like Take Covid test or something. And then it proves that I'm sick. I'm not sick right like I'm I am telling myself I'm not sick. But I heard this said by a coach of mine this past week that you should actually embrace it instead of resisting the sickness, embrace it. and what will happen is then it will go away because you're embracing it like, you're like, heck. Yeah, I'm getting sick, like, you know you're you're not really excited about that. But what he's saying is, embrace it like, embrace the sickness, embrace the fact that you are going to. He was like using the example of like strep throat. I think he was like, yes, Strep, bring it on, bring it on like he was like encouraging the strap right? And he says, what happens is it's going to go away and it was amazing cause it was like a bunch of us that were on this that were on this call and some people were sick, and they came back like, I can't even tell you how many people came back and said that. And he said it. You know it's not gonna just like instantaneously go away. But like the next day you will feel so much better and like. It was amazing. The stories of people who the next day were feeling so much better like, and even things that were like actual viruses and things they were like. They said they were like 80% better, like the virus wasn't all the way gone or whatever. But like they felt amazing with the virus even happening right? So it is like Proven. And I and I have another quote. I'm gonna share immediately, because this one is it's actually I found it on live life, happy com. and it goes like a step further than what you resist persists. It actually use that quote. But then it says, what you fight you get more of, and what you embrace dissolves, what you embrace, dissolves. And so it's reinforcing that point right? And I started to think about it in the and this is kind of like, I I think I'm gonna read another quote. I'm gonna read one more quote here, and this one is Steven pressfield, and it says, the more important an activity is to your soul's evolution, the more resistance, you will feel. So. This is like taking it from the opposite right, like taking it from something you actually want in your life. But you're actually resistant. And and it says that the more important and activity is to your soul's evolution meaning for you going to the next level right your soul's evolution, the more resistance you will feel. And why is that right? It's because we don't like change right? Like we, as people for the most part, like, I know I'm a little strange. I like change, but even me change can like freak out sometimes, and sometimes I don't even realize it. Right like this is the. This is the like epiphany that I had about my business, and about things like going to the next level, and this like innate fear, or something that we have. Maybe it's a fear of failure. Maybe it's a fear of success. Maybe, whatever it is inside of you that is resisting. taking yourself to that next level, because of all the changes that are gonna have to happen in order for you to get there. Or maybe the changes that happen once you do get there right. But you know that's what you want, you know that's what's best for you and with this, what came to mind was. you know, when I was pregnant with Michaela. So my number 2, like I already had my 1st baby, and I loved her like. You know that when you have your 1st baby, you just don't even understand the amount of love that you could have for another thing, another human, another anything like you, the amount of love that you feel for that child is indescribable like. You cannot describe it unless you are a mother and I remember being pregnant with Michaela, my number 2, child, and thinking like, Oh, my gosh! Am I going to be able to love him or her cause at the time I didn't know if I was having a boy or a girl, but I was like thinking like a I'm not going to be able to love her or him. I now know it's a her, so I'm using her as much as I already love Gabriela like. I didn't know if I was going to be able to do that, and I was like fearful of it. like I wanted to love her as much. But, like I you know you can't. It's not something that I even knew that I was going to have that much love in the 1st place, right? But I thought. how is it possible that I'm going to be able to love her as much as my 1st daughter, right like, how is it possible? Like it's just seemed impossible to me. And yet I knew. That's what I wanted. I knew I wanted another child like I knew I wanted a whole family. I knew I wanted Gabriela to have a sister, you know all of these things, but it would. There was something in me that was like fearful that I was going to have this other child that I was going to have to find it in me to love this other child as much, and I wanted to love her as much. But what had to happen right. I had to just lean in, and I think I may have said at the beginning the word surrender, and if I didn't, I like. I don't know where that came from, like I know where it came from, because that is the word that I think that we need to do like. It's the opposite right of resistance is surrender, and that is something where you have to just lean in. And I said before, embrace it right, but just surrendering a lot of times that fear and letting your instincts, or letting life like embracing sickness like don't surrender to the sickness right like. Don't surrender to it. I'm not saying that like when you're resisting something that you don't want, you don't want to surrender to it. You want to embrace it. You want to like you want to draw it in, and you want to embrace it right. But when you are, when you are resistant to something that you do want. You want to surrender your fears, and you want to surrender. That resistance at that point, right. Instead of embracing it. you want to surrender it and give it over, and then you can lean in to what is truly in your heart and your innate desire, and your innate passion, your innate love. All of those things are gonna kick in. And it's going to. Then you're gonna be able to make the change. Then you're gonna be able to like in my case, like I, just at some point, I was like, Okay. like, I have to surrender this to God and be like God, listen! I am worried about this, but I know that this that you know this is all going to be all good and everything's gonna work out. And so I didn't sit there and worry about it the whole time, like I let these things, and I actually even verbalize them. I believe I told. I remember I have a con conversation with my dad about it about these feelings I was feeling, and just again like having that conversation. And sometimes when you say things right. You say it, and you realize how ridiculous it sounds. But like he actually understood, like he understood what I meant, and that felt good that he understood it right, but he also was like, you know, just telling him was just a release for me, and it helped me to be able to surrender it right. And so And so what you resist persists, and when you don't want, when you you know, you don't want the thing, we want to embrace it. And when you do want the thing, you want to surrender it. And I hope that makes sense right like I'm gonna read another quote here because and this is another Eckert Tolle quote, which I had an Eckert Tolle quote last week, and I said he was a philosopher. He's not. He's like, he's an author. A very smart man, but he's not a philosopher, so, anyway, to offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. And isn't that what we want? Right? We want to be in a state of grace. We want to be in a state of ease. We want to be in a state of lightness. We want all of these things for ourselves, right? And we know ourselves like, I always talk about finding our true North. That's like my. My hope for everyone here is that you're able to find that true North, that that thing, that motivating set of values, that motivating whether it be a dream, or whether it just be a lifestyle or whatever it is that you want in your life, and let that those things you know, guide you in your life, and let them guide your decisions and let them guide everything that you do but we want to be in this state of grace, ease, and lightness. And what happens is is when we're resisting what we actually want. We are not able to be there. So we are tending to live in this stress and overwhelm and you know this heaviness right? Like we feel heavy and burdened all the time, and it's because we are not acting in alignment. Going back to another episode. You guys, I feel like all of my episodes tend to build on one another, and you can listen to them. Stand alone, but they are so helpful like if you go back and listen to some of my other episodes just about aligned flow. It's just it all works together, and you're able to be in aligned flow, and you're able to, you know. walk around in this straight state of grace and ease and lightness, and not be in this resistance and fear. But you have to be willing to surrender right or willing to embrace the suck like? Have you heard that one before? Embrace the suck like, embrace the sickness, embrace the suck because it dissolves, it winds up dissolving things that are that are opposites can exist together you always. I know. I don't know if you've heard it before, but when you say fear and love can't exist at the same time, so you cannot be operating from a place of love and be in fear. It's not possible the one cancels the other out. So if you are in total fear, you are not finding a place for love right? And if you are in love, then you aren't finding a place for fear. Right? That's when you know, like, say, you are in. You're in total love with someone you're not finding that place of fear. You're able to surrender. You're able to trust them, you're able to be vulnerable. You're able to communicate without abandoning and to show them love without caring. If they, if they give it back to you right? Because you're operating in love and not from fear. So like that totally just went off topic kind of. But it's the same. It is the same like you are not. It all goes together. It all works together, you guys, and I hope I'm driving this point home to you. And I wanna say one more thing, because this is where I feel like that some people can get like and where I may have been living, and why resistance is something that I didn't see as necessarily a bad thing, right? And I'm gonna read a quote from Henry Ford, and it says, when everything seems to be going against you. Remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it right? The airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. And so that's resistance, right like that, creates a resistance, and in that case the resistance is good because it needs to take off against the wind, and sometimes to rise to that higher level. We need the resistance, and the resistance is there so that we can change right. Resistance is the 1st step to change. That's another quote I had. I have tons of quotes that I found on resistance that are so good, but that was is Louise, Louise. Hay and resistance is the 1st step to change, so resistance is innate. We are going to feel it. I'm not saying it's something that we shouldn't feel. But what we should let it do is to work for us right? Embrace it like that plane is going into the wind. It's yes, it's resisting it, but it's using that to take it to the next level. Y'all. it's using it to take us to the next level. So resistance is the 1st step to change. So when you feel the resistance lean in. lean in, and whether you embrace it, or whether you surrender to it either way, it it is going to be the thing that can take you out of it that takes you through it. Okay, you guys, I am so excited I have so much coming up on the podcast. We have some exciting guests coming. I'm going to probably start dropping 2 episodes a week. So I hope this landed with you. I hope you'll tune in and share this with any of your friends that you think this episode may help. and I'll see you next week.  

​Welcome back, mamas or welcome to any new mamas we may have with us today, you guys, I have something for you today that if you know, if you follow the podcast if you listen on a regular basis, you know that I like to relate this to my life and what is going on in my life. And what has happened this past week? Has really like. And really, I can go back and say weeks and years, really, if you think about it. But what has happened? What happened last weekend with one of my daughters is the inspiration behind this episode today. And I wanna talk about you know I talk about tuning into your body and tuning into your feelings and getting like that. Check that intuition or whatnot. And I talk about it a lot. But I don't know if we truly realize the impact that our emotions, what we're feeling when things are out of alignment with the way that our emotions and our actions, like what our mind, our body, and like our emotions, are all in alignment. Things tend to go better right? And when they're out of alignment, they don't. And okay, I'm not. I'm going to get right to the point. Oh, but I want to start with a quote, right? Okay? So my 1st quote is going to be from Brian Tracy and Brian Tracy says, just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment. you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. and he says, Balance, I I like to say alignment. I don't like to use the word balance. I feel like balance was overused. I'm sure you've heard me say that before, but balance was overused, and it was kind of like this game, right? Where things had to be equal when you balance something right. You think about things being equal on both sides. But what I have discovered is that really what you're looking for is alignment. And when everything is kind of lined up when you know what your true North is, and everything is kind of pointing in that direction, that things can be out of balance in your life like you might be more focused on one area of your life than the other. a particular moment based on what's going on in your life. But if everything that you, your you know, let's go back to what Brian Tracy said. Like your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, your goals, your values. If those are aligned. even though you might be more focused on work at the moment than you are on family, or whatever it is, as long as everything is pointing towards that true North. Then you are performing better. Right you are in alignment, and it is good for your body. Now, what happened over the weekend that made me want to talk about. This was so, and this is really like I would have never. I would have never come up with this the way that I did if I hadn't had a prior experience of this. But I felt like it was so impactful that I needed to share it with you guys. So on Thursday I'm gonna go back to Thursday. We were throwing a surprise 50th wedding anniversary party for my parents. Okay, and it was so much fun like they had a blast. It was amazing, right? But the ruse or the way we got them there was my children. Okay, we use them. They were fully like willing and wanting to participate. And but what what we did was we created a lie right? Like, we created this lie. We we said that Scott and I were going to dinner for our wedding anniversary, which was last week, and we said that we asked them if they could watch the kids right for an overnight, which is totally. We do that all the time, like they love to watch the kids. And so what had also happened was, my daughter had had her end of year picnic canceled at her school, and so she came up with this idea my oldest daughter came up with this idea that they would do a redo of this party that they were supposed to have at the park with my parents, and that's how we are. Gonna get them to the park because the party was at this this place called. It was like a big house at the Park that we you can rent out for, like events, or whatever it's like this nice house. It's kind of indoor and outdoor spaces gorgeous, and we rented it for their party. But how are we gonna get them there right like, how like, what was, how are we gonna do this. And so, my children, we're gonna get them there like they they were like, we can get them there, you know, whatever. We'll just go to the Park and whatever. Then my daughter came up with this idea for the redo of this party, and she had, like a schedule which this is not unlike her to. She invites them. She makes invitations like she uses canva. She likes to do stuff like this, and so she made them an invitation to this redo end of Year celebration party, and she made a schedule, and they were supposed to come over to the White House. And so my kids had to. You know, they weren't lying the whole time, but they were definitely lying right. And so you know, telling them things to get them to go, you know or telling them. You know, they thought they were gonna eat pizza, and they were gonna order the pizza. And you know my mom and dad are packing all this like extra food, because my mom knows that like, I'm not just gonna let the kids eat pizza. I'm gonna wanna have them to have like some fruit or vegetables, or whatever with it. So my mom's packing a cooler and like the whole thing right. And so, my my youngest daughter is the one who we told her, just to pretend like she cannot lie like she does not lie like she won't lie. You can't get her to break rules like she is my rule follower. I love it great, but you know, for this instant instance I told her to pretend like she was acting, you know, because they both like drama and acting. I was like, just pretend like you're acting right. And so you have to get on. G, Dad to the park. You have to get on to the inside of this party and And so they did right. And when they did it was amazing like they did a great job. My parents never like thought anything of it until, like it was literally like they were walking into the place because my kids, the way they wound up. Getting them to go inside was like they were like my parents knew there was a party going on because we had shut the blinds and everything so they couldn't see that it was us. But you know it was very clear that there was people inside this house, and there were cars everywhere, you know, and my parents and my my girls were talking about wanting to go inside and check out this house. and my parents were like, you can't go in there. There's obviously a party, and all of a sudden my girls just yell party crashers, and they go running into the house, and they didn't come back out right. So my parents had no choice but to follow them into this house, and at that point that's like totally out of character for my kids. They were kind of like, what's what's going on like what is really going on. But we they had no idea that that was going to happen, and they got like kind of a wind of it, I think, right then, but like when they walked in and saw it, they were just in complete shock. And the scope of it like there was almost a hundred people there like it was crazy, but it was so fun, too, but like things that people were saying to my girls was a great job, like great job lying, you know. Great job getting them there. Great job keeping it up, you know. People were starting to say things like my dad even said it like they're either gonna be great actresses or great con artists and like my dad even said, like to me, like, you're in trouble like. and meaning like when they get older, like they're gonna be able to lie really well, and you know, because they had no idea they did not catch on to the whole thing, and they had even we had even had to make up something about what had happened earlier in the day, because my dad was gonna take them earlier. And so they had to like come up with this complete story, which I didn't even know about until after the fact that they had to lie about making up this story, and they made up this chandelier that they saw, and like they were explaining it in detail, and like, I do not know how they kept this thing going. They did. Amazing. But the point is is that my youngest daughter was not okay with that right? She was not okay with the lying. She was not okay with like people saying the things about her that they did, and no one was being like people were, you know. It was supposed to be a good thing, but like she felt very conflicted, and I didn't find this out until the next day, right till like Saturday. So this happened on Thursday, and I didn't find this out until Saturday, when I finally figured this out, but she was very conflicted about people saying good job for like lying and being like proud of them, for like lying right. And so it was. Just she was like, it was just weird, right, mom, it was just weird. So what happened was on Friday afternoon. She started to get a headache. and then she didn't really say anything to me, but she was acting a little different. And then by the evening. We dinner and she we were. We always do movie night if we can, on Friday nights. And so we were having like popcorn, and she normally is like eating or popcorn and having a good time with the movie. And she was just kind of like not really eating the popcorn. And my husband was like. You know, Michaela, are you doing okay? And she was just like, I don't know. And she looked at me, and I was like what's going on, and she was like my head hurts. I don't know. I just my stomach feels weird, and I was like, well, let's just not eat the popcorn, you know. Are you okay? And I like put my hand on her head, and it was little warm, but it wasn't like hot at all. It was just kind of like. No, you don't have fever. and so you know, I'm like here, just lay down on me. We're do some tapping I was tapping on our head and doing like we like to do that kind of stuff tapping. And this whole thing is a little woo right right. But I'm telling you guys it's so true. It's so true. When you're out of alignment. So bottom line bottom line, she winds up getting sick. She winds up getting sick, you know, throwing up, and then she feels a lot better right? And she her head is still hurting a tiny, tiny bit. But I was like, let's just go to bed, you know. So you know, we had finished the rest of the movie and and then she got sick. And then I was like, Okay, let's go to bed and and you know it was a little bit earlier than she would have normally gone to bed, but we were just like, let's go to bed, and you'll feel better in the morning. I have a feeling, because you know, if your head doesn't hurt anymore. It most likely we I was trying to figure out what it was right. And so we are thinking about everything she ate. It was the same as everyone else, or at least her sister or my husband, you know, like they had had the same pizza, and like all the things, so we were like ruling everything out, and next morning I woke up, and it like dawned on me, and the reason that it dawned on me that this was what made her sick is because years ago, and I believe I've told this part of this story before. But my oldest daughter was taking dance class, and she would always complain when she came in from school, that she had to get ready for dance, and she didn't complain until like halfway through the year right? So it was like the second half of the year. She was complaining about dance class, and I was like, you know, I always made her go right like we commit to something. We do it right. So I always made her go, and when she came home we would talk about it, and she really enjoyed dance like she would say, Yeah, I had a great time. We had fun. I liked it, you know, Da Da, Da, but she never wanted to go when she got him from school, like it was always like a chore to get her to go, but then, when she was there, she like had fun, and she would say she liked it. and everything. But what kept happening was she was getting this my, these migraines, and she would get them. After she came home from dance we would be eating dinner, and all of a sudden she would get a huge, hard headache like a really bad headache, and then she would throw up, and then she would be better after like a lot better. Her head would still hurt her like pretty decently, and then the next morning she would be completely fine. Right? Well, these headaches always happened on a Wednesday, because after a while I started tracking it like the doctor was like, you need to start tracking when she's doing this. What is she eating, you know, da da da. And so I was tracking. It was always on a Wednesday, which is her dance night right? And it was always like a few weeks apart, like you know, like and always on a Wednesday night, and always the same exact story like she would feel sick. Her head would kill her like she would get sick, and then she would be fine the next day. and so I finally figured it out. I finally. My husband was like, you know, she always says she likes dance, but I really don't think she does, and she's been wanting to tell you that she doesn't want to take dance, but she doesn't want to tell you. And I was like, why doesn't she wanna tell me? And she and I was like, I don't know, or he was like, I'm not sure why she doesn't want to tell you, because I love dance right like I think that's why she don't wanna tell me. But, you guys, the point is that finally it. I figured it out like she didn't like going to dance, and so I ended up, felt out of alignment for her. So she loved dance. She loves singing. She loves dancing, but she didn't like the structure of the class she didn't like, and she was there for a long time like I can't remember. I feel like it was 2 h that she was there, and so she did not like the structure of it. She didn't like being, you know, like learning and having. She loves to dance like freestyle and do her own thing. But she did not love the class, and so And and she was also kind of good at it, right? So we never really put it together but once. My husband told me that. And then we started thinking about this. I was like, Oh, my gosh, she is getting sick because of dance, and you know my husband kind of thought it was crazy, but I literally called Gabriella down had a conversation with her. and it never happened again. After the conversation. the headaches, the migraines, they completely went away. After the conversation. She still had, like a month or a month and a half of dance left of the year, and we still said, Continue with the dance, but just talking about it alleviated migrants because they had gotten almost weekly by the end of it, like we. It was like they had gone like one a month like you know. And and those had started the year prior. So those had started before that, and we didn't even realize it until after Christmas, when she started complaining about it right? And so it was really crazy. How it was her being out of alignment with her emotions. with what she was feeling and what she was doing. like the 2 things were out of alignment. And so so we didn't realize this, or I didn't put 2 and 2 together until, like it, it started to become more often and more frequent, and because it was always on the Wednesday I finally put it together. But what was the craziest part of it was that it was just the conversation with us which, you know. I I talked to her about not wanting to continue dance and you know, not liking why she didn't like it, and what she didn't like about it, and what she did like about it, and you know. What she really wanted to do was she did want to perform in the recital like that was the one thing that she like was really excited about and always talked about, was wanting to perform in the recital, and so she loves to perform right. She just didn't like the structure of the dance class, and so and so just having the conversation about it with us was enough to stop the migraines. They never came back now. She did get a couple of migraines like years later, when she was going through puberty and those were like few and far between, and I think she got 2 migraines, and they weren't even as bad as the ones before, like the hormonal imbalance wasn't even as bad like she never actually physically got sick from those. But the emotional impact that it had on her body from being out of alignment with what she felt that she was supposed to do right was what was enough to cause her to become physically ill. This is what I want to. Just drive home is just that we don't think about this as parents right like, we are going a lot of times a million miles an hour, right? Like we have things going on, and sometimes our bodies are telling us things that. or our child. Our children's bodies are telling us things that we need to know. But we aren't tuning into. And so when I woke up on Saturday morning and started to think about you know, it was still bothering me like what was wrong with Michaela, like, you know. And when she woke up I was like she was like fine. She was jumping all around. She was being completely, you know, normal. And I brought her. I brought her in that morning, and I talked to her, and I said, Hey, I was wondering if if you know that bothered you, what everything that you had to do to get my parents to the party if that bothered you. and she was like, well, I mean, I didn't like doing it. I just thought it was really weird that everyone thought it was so great and was like saying so. She was like telling me exactly why it was bothering her. and she told me you know, that it did bother her, and that, you know she was like. At 1st she was kind of like. Well, it was. It was, you know. She was like kind of afraid to tell me even that it bothered her. And I was like, it's okay. I really believe that this might be why you had your migraine last night, and why or why your head hurt, and why you got sick. And she was like, really. And I was like, Yeah, so it's okay. If you tell me what what you're really feeling. And that's when she started talking. And again talking about it, you guys. 1st of all, she released it right. She released it by by getting it out of her body. By throwing up and by having the headache like those were her signs to herself that she was out of alignment, and had she just kept going like she would have been okay, right? But she would have stuffed it down. She, her body, would have learned how to deal with that right? And then it would have moved on, because that's what our bodies do right. But who knows what could have happened? Right like she could have been irritable, she could have been. There's lots of different ways that this stuff like piles up, and we are taught to kind of like, not really think in this way where you know I don't know why, but I feel like we're getting more in tune with it now, like what we put in our body, like the actual food that we eat has a big part in how we feel, but also how we feel, has a, you know, in our emotions and our thoughts and our beliefs, and what we tell ourself. And you know, all of this stuff has a huge impact on our physical body as well. Not just what we eat. It's what we think, like stress is the leading cause of most illness. The leading cause of most illness is stress, and we make ourselves sick by being stressed out. It's so unbelievably crazy to me that you know. Wellness, or this is like called woo woo right? Because it is really, if you think about it, it makes total sense, and I'm going to go ahead and read another quote. And this one it says, this is from I. I don't know how to how to say this, but I think it's a Yanla Ianma, EIYA NLAL. A. IYAN. LA. Yanzan or Vanzant. I don't know. It's a very it's a very. It's a script that I cannot read. I found it in 2 different places, and both times I'm not really sure of the, but it says when you are in alignment with the desires of your heart, things have a way of working out when you're in alignment with the desires of your heart things they have a way of working out. And it is so true because we, when we are in alignment. We're able to take this action. That's from this different place. And things have a way of working out. They just do because we're in alignment. We know where we're going. We are. We are operating in alignment. We are operating in such a way that you know I always talk about where focus goes, energy flows, and I say things like things like the way you do. One thing is the way you do everything right. And so it's so true, like we have to check in with ourselves. We have to and and you know I I am one who goes to the chiropractor. So physical alignment of your neck and back, and all of those things is super important, too, like there, if you're out of alignment in your spine and your hips, you know there's all kinds of problems that can happen in your body when you're out of alignment. But it's also internal emotional thoughts, beliefs, actions when those are out of alignment. That is also something that could send you out of alignment in your body, out of, you know. Make things not the way that you want them to be for your child children or for yourself. Right? And so I'm gonna read one more quote, and this one is from Eckert Toll. And it says, when the basis for your actions, this one is deep, so this one requires some thinking right. So when the basis for your actions is in our alignment. With the present moment your actions become empowered by the intelligence of life itself. Okay, I'm gonna read it one more time, because that one's deep when the basis for your actions is inner alignment with the present moment your actions become empowered by the intelligence of life itself. So it's basically saying that when you're in line with what you're doing when you're aligned with your present moment, when you're acting in such a way that is in alignment with your present moment like if you're acting in such a way that is not in alignment with your present moment, like Michaela lying, or like Gabriela, not wanting to dance, but being at dance right it it it becomes this thing that is hindering you. It becomes this thing that it does not empower you right. It does the opposite of that. And it's so. It says, your actions become empowered by the intelligence of life itself. And so it's basically saying that God. The universe, you know, like everything, knows when you're acting out of alignment. And so you're not able to be empowered like you can empower yourself by acting in alignment. It's so powerful. This is Eckert Toll. Right? He's the one who said this, and like I'm pretty sure he is a very smart philosopher, and so unless I'm thinking of the wrong person. But I am so. I believe in this so much that I wanted to take this. You know I I feel like I've gone a little long on this episode, but I feel like it's well worth it. And the stories really drive home the point that I'm trying to make, which is like this whole work that I'm that I'm you know. I'm trying to do this work of finding your true north, and then going towards that and moving in the direction, and using that as your guide as your compass. This is so important in so many respects. It's important to you. It's important to you as a mother, as a person. It's important to your children like it is so important. And I want to leave you with just the nudge to really check in with that, to check in with your alignment. And if you need help in any area of this work that you need to do like in order to discover all of this, because it wasn't something that I was able to discover overnight. It wasn't really something that I was even in tune with myself. When I was going through all of this myself. But it is been something that I have been dedicated to for the last few years of my life, and that I have been a so so incredibly much happier person once I've been acting in alignment with what I want for my life for my family. and so I implore you to just check in with yourself and see and see if that is, you know, if you've been sick in your body, if you have been you know, physically like sick, or even if you know you've ailments, and you've been in pain like these are all things that we do, and they're indicators that your body is giving you that, especially when the doctor, you know, if there there could. Obviously, if you cut your finger, you're going to be in pain right? And that is like physically, you're in pain from cutting your finger right? But I'm talking about. If you can't figure out what the pain is in your body, or why you're having it. It could have something to do with this. So I'm gonna leave you with that until next week. Y'all.

Welcome back, mamas, or welcome to any new mamas we may have listening to us today, you guys, I have a topic today that has just been on my heart today. And so I decided to do this. It actually kind of came from a devotional that I started, and I hope you join us for that devotional. It is called 100 days of less hustle, more. Jesus. I have a Facebook group check the notes, check the description. You'll see a link. You can join us there. We're doing it twice a week. and I was inspired by you know, I always start with a quote. So today's quote is actually going to be a Bible verse. from our study. So it it is. Second Corinthians, chapter 12, verse 9, and it says, but he said to me, My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness. And you guys, this week I want to talk about support and a support system and you know, asking for support, asking for help, asking for what you need, and a lot of times as moms as multitaskers as if you're anything like me. Type, a control, you know, like to do everything myself and not like to look weak right like a lot of times. We feel like it makes us look weak or appear week if we ask for help, if we have to ask for help, and we do not like asking others for help. And so I am here to help like debunk this myth. That asking for help is weakness. I actually believe that it is power and just you know my grace is sufficient of for you, for power is perfected, and weakness. Sometimes, you know, when we ask for what it is that we need. And then and you know in this in this verse it's actually talking about relying on God right and his power, because his power is actually perfected in in our weakness, right like he can get stronger, and we know he is there. We feel his presence. We're able to tap into that when we be when we become vulnerable. and when we just surrender to Him, and he then gives us the strength and the power that we need. But it's also true in life, because when? you know in in any relationship, because when, if you think about it, when you are in a relationship and someone asks you for help. how does that make you feel right? It makes you feel like, oh, I would love to help them right, like most of the time we are, if we can, willing and able and actually fulfilled by helping others right like we are made stronger when we are helping like it actually fuels us. I don't know if you've ever you know, volunteered at, you know. Let's just say a charity, whether it be like a soup, kitchen type thing, or homeless shelter, or you know, whatever the case might be. But a lot of times in those situations like you are volunteering to help. But then you wind up getting so much from it that you are stronger for having done that right like it actually helped you. It didn't just help the other person or the group, or whoever you were serving right?

• It actually helped you and I want to, because, as mothers, we have a lot of times we are feeling burnt out. We have so much on our plate, and we don't want to ask for that help. Whether it be, you know, could be from our spouse right like we are embarrassed, maybe to have to ask our spouse to help us, because, you know, maybe they've had a long day at work. But we have been at home with the kids all day, and we are tired, or we are whatever, and a lot of times you know they don't even know you might want their help. And like, I'm not saying, you know, like Babysit, the kids, or whatever I'm just saying like, ask them to help with anything with the children, because that might give you some time to step aside, and even, you know, not like doing dishes or folding laundry or anything else. But just if you can have some time to yourself, even if you are doing dishes or folding laundry, or whatever you're doing without the kids, and they have been like a drain for you that day, or whatever that could actually fill his cup right like he could get some joy from the kids that would give you the opportunity to de-stress, and, you know, just be by yourself for a little bit, and everyone would be happier afterwards. Right? Or if you have to ask a parent to help you with the kids, help pick up or help, you know, take the kids for something, or if you need to ask a friend whatever it is.
• I feel like a lot of times we feel alone isolated and afraid to ask for help, and if you're in that place where you are feeling depressed, or you feel like you need that alone. Time, or you feel like you need some me time. I want to encourage you to ask for help because you are going to find that it actually it not only fuels you, but it's actually, you know, people like helping other people right? We like helping our friends and family like, I would be happy to help out a friend and watch their kids for a few hours right like it might give me some fun time with their kids, or whatever, and then it would give them this. you know, relief, and that would make me feel good, because not only did I get to spend some time with our kids, but I actually got to help out my friend in a way that she needed help, that you know, she couldn't get otherwise. And so I feel like A lot of times we are afraid and just we don't realize that asking for help is going to possibly make our relationship stronger. It makes everything stronger, right? It makes you stronger because it is hard, right? It's hard to ask for the help. But then, once you get the help. you feel better, and it's going to make you stronger, and you're going to be able to flex that muscle. And for someone like me like I said, Who's the control freak and wants to do everything. It was really, really, really hard at first to do that, and now I find that it is so freeing to know that I can ask for the help. and that actually, the person wants to give it to me like, especially grandparents, right? Like they always want to be with your kids like. So they're always gonna be like chomping at the bit to help if they can right? And that will actually fuel them. It makes them feel good. They get to have the kids, they get to do something special or whatever. And you actually get some time. And you might feel like it's a burden for them, cause you're like, Oh, these kids are gonna be crazy and you know it. It's just it's just too much for them or whatever it is, but they probably don't feel the same way.
• And they would actually be more than willing to help. So I wanted to read another quote. So this this one is from Napoleon Hill, and it says, it is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others succeed. And so that just proves my point of you know you help others, you help others, and you are going to succeed when you're helping others. So it is not a self serving thing when you are asking for help, like if you truly need help like, don't you know, ask for help if you just don't need help. And you just wanna like. you know, you just wanna I I don't think any any mom is gonna do that right like just ask for help because she can. And you know, she's gonna go shopping every day, and you just pawn her kids off on whoever right like. No, I'm not saying that right? I'm saying, you are gonna succeed and ha! By helping others. That is how we succeed. Best. And it is actually. it's like it's helping both people right when you are working in that type of a a give, take a win, win. It's a win win. That's the word I was looking for is win-win. We also have a quote from Les Brown. It says it says, help others achieve their dreams, and you will achieve yours. And so this is just this relationship that a lot of times we don't see as mothers that you know, that other people want to help us, and that they are actually going to feel more fulfilled. They're actually going to if it's people that love you, they really want to help right? They do. And so supporting you is actually going to fill their cup. And whatever it is that you need like, maybe actually, it isn't watching your kids. Maybe it's doing something else for you. But like, when they ask you for help later, like, it creates this relationship where you know typically you are going to get filled by one another. And your relationship is going to get stronger from that. And it's gonna create this power in your relationship just like it will with God, right like. If you ask God and surrender to Him. It's gonna create this power in your heart. It's gonna create this power that comes from him that you can only get by surrendering and asking him for it. And that's the same in your relationships with people. Right? They want to love you and you to love them. And this is how they can love you. And you're going to get to give that in return. Right?
• But it's just this beautiful thing that we don't think about. A lot of times. We just feel like we are burdening someone else with our problems or whatnot but really. when you need the help, not saying, Take advantage of people again, I'm just saying when you need the help, it is okay, and is actually probably going to make your relationship stronger with those people who you can trust, and you can make yourself that vulnerable to ask for the help it's going to fuel that relationship and even make it stronger. So I just wanted to share. This was on my heart like I said, this week, I feel like you know, I've been talking about keeping your word. I've just been talking about like I feel like a lot of people are stressed out or burnt out. And in this time we try to take on too many things. And you know, sometimes it's okay, right to wave the flag and just be like, I need some help. And people are not only more than willing to give it, but a lot of times. It's going to create something beautiful from just from just this, this relationship that is created by you asking for the help. So that's what I had for you this week. Hopefully it landed. I I would love for you to join the devotional, if that is something that spoke to you. You know we are doing the 100 days of less hustle more Jesus. It's usually Tuesday and Thursday is what I've been doing at least 2 times a week. We're going to be going live on Facebook.
• doing it devotional. And also I have in the works for those of you who are burnt out and do need some tools and tips and different things that are proven strategies. So you can master. The all, the busy and master, all of the things that you have to do so that you aren't burnouts, that you go to thriving and reduce stress.I'm putting together a mastermind in the works right now. It's probably going to be at the end of the summer that it winds up coming out. But it will be lots of tools and tricks. Not tricks, really, but very valuable tools that will help you. So stay tuned for that and I will talk to you next week.
• So I actually had one more quote that I wanted to share. And this is from Michael. Sure SCHU. R. Sure, and it says you can't achieve anything entirely by yourself. There's a so so us, there's a support system that is a basic requirement of human existence to be happy and successful on Earth. You just have to have people that you rely on. So that is like that is pretty strong, right? But I think it is so true, and it just goes to exactly what I've been saying here, and hopefully, that is landed with you, you guys, I am really excited about this devotional that I've started. If that spoke to you at all, please join us. The the details are in the notes. in the description of this, podcast. So check that out, join us on Facebook. We're doing it at least 2 times a week. Live where we can do that together. And also in the works, is a mastermind. There. I'm not gonna call it a mastermind. This time I feel like people didn't know what that was. So basically a summit it's going to be at least 21 different experts that are going to speak to us with proven, like strategies, ways to take you from burnout to less stressed and giving you actual tangible tools so that you can master your busy right and turn it into a life where you're just thriving. So I'm really excited about that. It's going to be towards the end of the summer, so stay tuned. But that's all I have for you this week, and I will talk to you next week.

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• • and it is embrace, uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won't have a title until much later. Okay, so that is about uncertainty. And I think you know who knows? At the time when he wrote that, why, he was writing it. But it was probably just the fact that change right like there's always things that are changing. But elcome back, mamas, or welcome to any mamas that we may have new with us here today. You guys, I don't know if you have been following this podcast for a while, or if you are new. But either way, what you should know about me is that I like to stay current. I like to feel and pray, and get a vibe for what my topic should be. What would what we should discuss what mamas might need to hear from me each week, and this week. The topic is uncertainty.  because I don't know about you, but it seems like everywhere I go and every place I look on the Internet.  you know, social media whatnot. There are uncertain times. People seem to be less certain about the future, about what is going to happen. And it it is almost like an uneasiness or an unsteadiness, or some type of unsettled feeling that everyone seems to have. And I'm gonna start with a quote, because if you don't know also, I always start with a quote. You'll hear lots of quotes and love of quotes. And so this quote, today, I'm going to start with is from Bob Goff. this level of uncertainty that I am like speaking about today is deeper. It is something that is almost like a feeling. That is universal. I feel like everyone is feeling it
  
  
  • when, as it relates to money, and when I say money, I don't just mean like how much you have, I mean, like the state of our money like, you know what's happening with inflation, what's happening with the political environment? And who will be elected and how that will affect our economy. What's happening with
    you know, when I say inflation, it affects jobs, right? It affects the fact that minimum wages are being raised and people are letting. You know. Companies are closing their doors. They're laying off employees like all of these things that are you know, having a big effect on us right? You hear people? You know, I don't wanna get onto a negative thing. But I feel like it's these underlying uncertainty, unsafe like unsettledness that everyone seems to be in right now, and people are dealing with it in all kinds of different ways. Like some people, I feel like everyone is having busy energy right? Whether it is pouring yourself into your work or pouring yourself into your kids activities, pouring yourself into just staying busy, and a lot of times when we're doing that. What we are doing is actually trying to avoid something right like when we're being busy. When I think that you know, this term of busy is being worn like a badge nowadays. I feel like one of the reasons is because busyness is like a lack of intimacy. It is like you are trying to avoid typically intimate relationship. Intimate feelings like whatever it is. When you are busy, when you are trying to keep yourself busy, you guys. And I feel like with this.
  
  
  • you know, like, with this uncertain, I'm just going to say this uncertainty, Vibe. It's not even a thing. I'm making it a thing. It is like having everyone be very busy and you know, get caught up and do all of these things like sometimes at the same time, like simultaneously doing things at the same time. Because they are just trying to fill that that feeling of uncertainty. They're trying to get rid of it and not deal with it right and not deal with it. And so I just wanted to address this, and also kind of I don't know. Maybe maybe relieve some of you today, and also maybe give some direction. I don't know. I don't know exactly where this is going. Or I prayed before this because I'm like, Okay, God lead me in the direction of what people need to hear today, because I feel like people need to hear some sort of message of how we get through this. Or, you know, maybe some people need to hear why we get through this right. And so another quote, and this one it doesn't. I found it on one mindful our mindful lifecom. but it says you will never know how far you can go by staying where you are right. You will never know how far you can go by staying where you are. and the reason I bring this up now is because a lot of times when we are being busy and we are, we're avoiding something right like we're avoiding being. We're we're avoiding, you know, trying to feel our feelings. We're avoiding being intimate. We're avoiding. But we are staying where we are. Like all of this busy energy is not moving you forward right? And so we have to take action. And I'm in this like right now. It's called a take action challenge that I'm doing with my business coach, and we she's having us like. Take all of this action that might be messy, and it might be uncomfortable. But it's like moving us out of this uncertain feeling it's moving us out of. And so it might seem counterintuitive where I'm saying, you know, you wanna be. You don't wanna just be busy. But I want you to be busy like I want you to take action. And
  
  
  • the reason that it is not counter intuitive ever is not 2 different contradicting, you know, advice. I'm not saying that you should not be busy right? But what I'm saying is, you shouldn't be creating things to just make yourself busy. Right? Like you should have a goal. You should have an end. You should have a vision. You should have
  • something that you want some direction, that you're going right. And here, in mama's way to find success, we talk about finding our true North right? And so that's what I'm hoping to like guide people to do is for moms to figure out what it is. It's important to them. Figure out what it is that drives us to figure out what it is at our core. That is our true North. And then we go in that direction right? And everything is kind of that that true North, that guiding, you know, compass that North star. However, you want to look at it. That is our litmus test. That is our you know, barometer. The way that we look at everything is through the lens of that vision, or those principles, or whatever it is, and for everyone. It looks different, right? And all of these things that are happening in our world that are making us feel all these, you know.
  • uneasy feelings, and this uncertainty and all of this, it makes us feel very unsafe. And so I just wanna get us back into like a a safe energy, a a controlled energy, a place where you feel grounded and a place where you feel like you can take this action, but in a real productive way, and not just be busy, not just be overwhelmed, not just be stressed, not just be burnt out because of all of the things that you have to do on your to do list, but to know that you are taking action towards something that is going to be fulfilling for you, towards something for you and your family that is going to be your vision, what you are working towards. Right?
  • So I'm gonna I'm gonna go to another quote. And this is by Maya Angelou who I absolutely love. I did a paper on her when I was in high school, and it says I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it. I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.
  • And, you guys, I feel like what is happening in this world. It's scary, right? Like it's very uncertain. You know, we have AI, we have Bitcoin and all of these like you know. What are they called crypto currencies, and I couldn't think of the word crypto. But all these crypto currencies and things that are out there, and they're things that we may. There, we're uncertain about, right, like we don't know about any of these things. We don't know what is going to come of them. We don't know, you know, if the dollar is going to go away, or and if Crypto is like the thing of the future, or, if you know, the crypto is, gonna go away, and where everyone's gonna go back to the dollar. Who knows? Maybe we'll go back to like times of long, long ago, and we will go back to, you know, trading goods like my my daughter. This is like a sidebar, but she totally a couple of weeks ago we were. It was bedtime, and this is where she always has her like philosophic thoughts. I don't know if you guys are like that with your households, but you know it seems to be at bedtime is where all of a sudden everything gets real deep, and they start asking these tough questions and having these like philosophical thoughts that they want your opinion on and things like that.
  
  
  • But anyway, she was talking about mommy, why do people even have money anyway? Like, why doesn't everybody just do whatever they're good at it and like trade with each other like we should? Just, you know you could make this. And you know she was talking about how my mom sews, and like, you know, she can do that. And and you know, people could just trade things with E with each other like, why do we even need money? Or why don't we just take our stuff? And I think it. I think it actually started with we were giving away stuff like
    getting them. To give anything away is just like crazy in my household, like they want to keep everything, and they do. I will say they play with a lot of their toys. Because they have a lot, and they do use them. But it's like someone else could better use this or someone else could play more with this right and
    So I'm trying to convince them that there's this like city wide yard sale. And we're gonna participate. And I'm like, you can sell your stuff. So then you'll actually get money or whatever. And she's like, well, why don't we do that all the time with, you know things that we're giving away to other people just trade for things that you want, and I'm like, well, we don't want anything else coming into this house right now, but you know that's the way that it used to be, and she's like, I think we should go back to that. And she's talking about that.
  
  
  • So you know, that was a total sidebar. But really, you know, we have no idea what the future holds right. We have no idea what is actually going to happen with the way that we work and the way that we get paid, and the way that you know what is what is valued right? Gold is really high right now. Will it stay there? Who knows right? But the point is is that you can choose again if you know me. You know that I'm mobile, but all about choosing your attitude and choosing the way you react to things, but you can choose not to be reduced by it. You can choose not to let it take you down. You can choose yourself. You can choose to keep putting yourself and your family first, and to think about what is best for you, and to really get quiet and get still and really come and think about. And if you need help doing that, this is what I am here for. I absolutely love it. But
  
  
  • trying to figure out at your core what it is that drives you, and what it is that is your true North, what you're going after, and then how you get there right. Do not let all this outside stuff reduce you to the point of like giving in or starting to get give up or getting you in all this busy energy that is, gonna take you away from actually what you're wanting to accomplish. Right? So I I have another quote here, and it says, success is not final. This is Winston Churchill, Winston Churchill. Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts. It's the courage to continue that count. You guys, we just need to move forward like success isn't final when you're successful. At one thing, you know a lot of times you're unsuccessful at other things to make that thing a success. Hopefully, you can, you know, like I, I always say I also hate the word balance right? But I always strive for aligned flow. Right? You can be successful in something, but it's not final. That's not. We don't stop there when we're successful. Right? And failure is not fatal.
  
  
  • When you fail at something you learn from it and you keep going. But that is the key. The key is, you need the courage to continue. And that is what counts. And you guys, we just need the courage to continue in this time. I want you to know that there is something right like that some place that you can feel safe like there is. I don't want you to sit with this feeling of uncertainty and this feeling of you know the out of control. Right? I want you to take your control back and know that you can feel safe again, and and that it it is safe for you. Right, like the ways of this world, are different, right? The ways of this world are not the ways of God. They just aren't. You guys. I'm just gonna go ahead and take a stand and plant my flag right here. If you know I'm a believer, and I I believe that the ways of this world are not the ways of God, and I believe that you can look inward and find out your true North, and figure it out for yourself, and plant your flag there, and you can thrive in that space. You can thrive in that space. And I hope this is making sense. You guys, I just felt this overwhelming. I don't know since this week that from talking to so many people that are just. They just don't know what to do. They don't know what to do. And so it's creating all of this busy energy. And you know, spinning wheels, and you know even things that are that the the seem productive and that are like worthwhile and things that you could justify. Why, you're giving all your energy somewhere. But if you really sit back and think about it, it's actually
  • it's actually not. It's actually not like. It doesn't need to be taking all your time, or you could still be doing something about an area of your life that you really are passionate about, that. You really are driven towards that. You really want to make a change in and still be doing this other stuff as well. But you get caught up in all of this other stuff, because you just don't want to deal with it. And you don't know you're just uncertain. Right?
  
  
  • So hopefully, this is landing, you guys. I actually feel like I should. I should bring up right now. Next week. I'm going to be starting a devotional. And it's going to be in a Facebook group. I don't know if you're on Facebook or not. But please, if you if you would like to, I will put in the notes in the description of this podcast. I will put a link to the Facebook group ( https://www.facebook.com/groups/mamasredefinesuccess/ ) where you can come and join us. It's called 100 days of less hustle and more Jesus. And what's really funny about that is, you know. Here I am talking about the busyness and all of the things. And this this devotional is talking about, though resting.  getting your rest from God right like not stopping right, not you get your rest from God. God is the only one who can give us that peace and that rest. And so this devotional. I haven't been through it yet, so I don't exactly know but but it is 100 days of less hustle and more Jesus, and it is no matter what bring what life brings your way, God longs for you to rest in him, knowing that he is always with you, always loving you, and always looking out for your best interest. So that is just a snippet from the back of this book, you guys, I feel like it's gonna be a powerful journey. It's something I just decided to do. I felt like I was led to do it, and I just decided to do it for sure last week. And so I made it happen. I made the Facebook page. I'm still trying to figure out if anyone knows and wants to send my way, how you go live  like on Zoom, but stream it into your Facebook group that would be amazing. So that I can like interact with people, and so that it can be recorded. And all of that stuff without just doing like a Facebook live cause I feel like that. Doesn't really work. I think you have to do like the zoom connection. So I'm gonna figure it all out, and I would love for you to join us. Join us at any time like it's a hundred day. I'm probably gonna do it. I'm committing to at least 2 times a week. That will do it. Live in the group. I'm hoping that you know people will contribute and be there live, but if you can't, it'll be there like so that you can go back and watch it.
  • Because again, I know we're all busy, and you may not be available at the time we do it, but I think
    The first day will for sure be next week I will stay tuned. I will give you more details, but I would love to have you join us there. So with that y'all, I will see you next week.