The Power In Asking For Help ~ Episode 35 ~ May 2, 2024

Welcome back, mamas, or welcome to any new mamas we may have listening to us today, you guys, I have a topic today that has just been on my heart today. And so I decided to do this. It actually kind of came from a devotional that I started, and I hope you join us for that devotional. It is called 100 days of less hustle, more. Jesus. I have a Facebook group check the notes, check the description. You'll see a link. You can join us there. We're doing it twice a week. and I was inspired by you know, I always start with a quote. So today's quote is actually going to be a Bible verse. from our study. So it it is. Second Corinthians, chapter 12, verse 9, and it says, but he said to me, My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness. And you guys, this week I want to talk about support and a support system and you know, asking for support, asking for help, asking for what you need, and a lot of times as moms as multitaskers as if you're anything like me. Type, a control, you know, like to do everything myself and not like to look weak right like a lot of times. We feel like it makes us look weak or appear week if we ask for help, if we have to ask for help, and we do not like asking others for help. And so I am here to help like debunk this myth. That asking for help is weakness. I actually believe that it is power and just you know my grace is sufficient of for you, for power is perfected, and weakness. Sometimes, you know, when we ask for what it is that we need. And then and you know in this in this verse it's actually talking about relying on God right and his power, because his power is actually perfected in in our weakness, right like he can get stronger, and we know he is there. We feel his presence. We're able to tap into that when we be when we become vulnerable. and when we just surrender to Him, and he then gives us the strength and the power that we need. But it's also true in life, because when? you know in in any relationship, because when, if you think about it, when you are in a relationship and someone asks you for help. how does that make you feel right? It makes you feel like, oh, I would love to help them right, like most of the time we are, if we can, willing and able and actually fulfilled by helping others right like we are made stronger when we are helping like it actually fuels us. I don't know if you've ever you know, volunteered at, you know. Let's just say a charity, whether it be like a soup, kitchen type thing, or homeless shelter, or you know, whatever the case might be. But a lot of times in those situations like you are volunteering to help. But then you wind up getting so much from it that you are stronger for having done that right like it actually helped you. It didn't just help the other person or the group, or whoever you were serving right?

• It actually helped you and I want to, because, as mothers, we have a lot of times we are feeling burnt out. We have so much on our plate, and we don't want to ask for that help. Whether it be, you know, could be from our spouse right like we are embarrassed, maybe to have to ask our spouse to help us, because, you know, maybe they've had a long day at work. But we have been at home with the kids all day, and we are tired, or we are whatever, and a lot of times you know they don't even know you might want their help. And like, I'm not saying, you know, like Babysit, the kids, or whatever I'm just saying like, ask them to help with anything with the children, because that might give you some time to step aside, and even, you know, not like doing dishes or folding laundry or anything else. But just if you can have some time to yourself, even if you are doing dishes or folding laundry, or whatever you're doing without the kids, and they have been like a drain for you that day, or whatever that could actually fill his cup right like he could get some joy from the kids that would give you the opportunity to de-stress, and, you know, just be by yourself for a little bit, and everyone would be happier afterwards. Right? Or if you have to ask a parent to help you with the kids, help pick up or help, you know, take the kids for something, or if you need to ask a friend whatever it is.
• I feel like a lot of times we feel alone isolated and afraid to ask for help, and if you're in that place where you are feeling depressed, or you feel like you need that alone. Time, or you feel like you need some me time. I want to encourage you to ask for help because you are going to find that it actually it not only fuels you, but it's actually, you know, people like helping other people right? We like helping our friends and family like, I would be happy to help out a friend and watch their kids for a few hours right like it might give me some fun time with their kids, or whatever, and then it would give them this. you know, relief, and that would make me feel good, because not only did I get to spend some time with our kids, but I actually got to help out my friend in a way that she needed help, that you know, she couldn't get otherwise. And so I feel like A lot of times we are afraid and just we don't realize that asking for help is going to possibly make our relationship stronger. It makes everything stronger, right? It makes you stronger because it is hard, right? It's hard to ask for the help. But then, once you get the help. you feel better, and it's going to make you stronger, and you're going to be able to flex that muscle. And for someone like me like I said, Who's the control freak and wants to do everything. It was really, really, really hard at first to do that, and now I find that it is so freeing to know that I can ask for the help. and that actually, the person wants to give it to me like, especially grandparents, right? Like they always want to be with your kids like. So they're always gonna be like chomping at the bit to help if they can right? And that will actually fuel them. It makes them feel good. They get to have the kids, they get to do something special or whatever. And you actually get some time. And you might feel like it's a burden for them, cause you're like, Oh, these kids are gonna be crazy and you know it. It's just it's just too much for them or whatever it is, but they probably don't feel the same way.
• And they would actually be more than willing to help. So I wanted to read another quote. So this this one is from Napoleon Hill, and it says, it is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others succeed. And so that just proves my point of you know you help others, you help others, and you are going to succeed when you're helping others. So it is not a self serving thing when you are asking for help, like if you truly need help like, don't you know, ask for help if you just don't need help. And you just wanna like. you know, you just wanna I I don't think any any mom is gonna do that right like just ask for help because she can. And you know, she's gonna go shopping every day, and you just pawn her kids off on whoever right like. No, I'm not saying that right? I'm saying, you are gonna succeed and ha! By helping others. That is how we succeed. Best. And it is actually. it's like it's helping both people right when you are working in that type of a a give, take a win, win. It's a win win. That's the word I was looking for is win-win. We also have a quote from Les Brown. It says it says, help others achieve their dreams, and you will achieve yours. And so this is just this relationship that a lot of times we don't see as mothers that you know, that other people want to help us, and that they are actually going to feel more fulfilled. They're actually going to if it's people that love you, they really want to help right? They do. And so supporting you is actually going to fill their cup. And whatever it is that you need like, maybe actually, it isn't watching your kids. Maybe it's doing something else for you. But like, when they ask you for help later, like, it creates this relationship where you know typically you are going to get filled by one another. And your relationship is going to get stronger from that. And it's gonna create this power in your relationship just like it will with God, right like. If you ask God and surrender to Him. It's gonna create this power in your heart. It's gonna create this power that comes from him that you can only get by surrendering and asking him for it. And that's the same in your relationships with people. Right? They want to love you and you to love them. And this is how they can love you. And you're going to get to give that in return. Right?
• But it's just this beautiful thing that we don't think about. A lot of times. We just feel like we are burdening someone else with our problems or whatnot but really. when you need the help, not saying, Take advantage of people again, I'm just saying when you need the help, it is okay, and is actually probably going to make your relationship stronger with those people who you can trust, and you can make yourself that vulnerable to ask for the help it's going to fuel that relationship and even make it stronger. So I just wanted to share. This was on my heart like I said, this week, I feel like you know, I've been talking about keeping your word. I've just been talking about like I feel like a lot of people are stressed out or burnt out. And in this time we try to take on too many things. And you know, sometimes it's okay, right to wave the flag and just be like, I need some help. And people are not only more than willing to give it, but a lot of times. It's going to create something beautiful from just from just this, this relationship that is created by you asking for the help. So that's what I had for you this week. Hopefully it landed. I I would love for you to join the devotional, if that is something that spoke to you. You know we are doing the 100 days of less hustle more Jesus. It's usually Tuesday and Thursday is what I've been doing at least 2 times a week. We're going to be going live on Facebook.
• doing it devotional. And also I have in the works for those of you who are burnt out and do need some tools and tips and different things that are proven strategies. So you can master. The all, the busy and master, all of the things that you have to do so that you aren't burnouts, that you go to thriving and reduce stress.I'm putting together a mastermind in the works right now. It's probably going to be at the end of the summer that it winds up coming out. But it will be lots of tools and tricks. Not tricks, really, but very valuable tools that will help you. So stay tuned for that and I will talk to you next week.
• So I actually had one more quote that I wanted to share. And this is from Michael. Sure SCHU. R. Sure, and it says you can't achieve anything entirely by yourself. There's a so so us, there's a support system that is a basic requirement of human existence to be happy and successful on Earth. You just have to have people that you rely on. So that is like that is pretty strong, right? But I think it is so true, and it just goes to exactly what I've been saying here, and hopefully, that is landed with you, you guys, I am really excited about this devotional that I've started. If that spoke to you at all, please join us. The the details are in the notes. in the description of this, podcast. So check that out, join us on Facebook. We're doing it at least 2 times a week. Live where we can do that together. And also in the works, is a mastermind. There. I'm not gonna call it a mastermind. This time I feel like people didn't know what that was. So basically a summit it's going to be at least 21 different experts that are going to speak to us with proven, like strategies, ways to take you from burnout to less stressed and giving you actual tangible tools so that you can master your busy right and turn it into a life where you're just thriving. So I'm really excited about that. It's going to be towards the end of the summer, so stay tuned. But that's all I have for you this week, and I will talk to you next week.