Welcome back, mamas, or welcome to any new mamas we may have with us today. You guys, I want to talk to you this week about something again that has been just like a theme through the last week of my life that I now want to share with you, because I believe that it is it's something that I've always known. Again. I feel like I've been sharing these things with you that I've always known. But I'm getting like to a deeper level with lately. And it's this It's this concept of surrendering. And we I'm gonna start with a quote that that is from Carl Gustav Jung. Who says what you resist persists? What you resist persists. Now we've all heard that right, like what you resist, persist. But what does it mean? And like? How do we take the knowledge of that? What you resist persists and use it to help us. So what I want to? I'm gonna start off with a couple of stories like things that came to mind and that are just coming to mind right now. That I want to use as examples to drive home this point of what you resist persists, and how we can use that to our advantage. Right? Because what we're resisting a lot of times is something that we don't want. But sometimes what we're resisting is actually something that we do want, that we don't even know that we're resisting it, or we know we're resisting it. But we don't know why. So the 1st example I'm going to use is like something that we don't want right like. So when we are sick, right? And we don't want to be sick. So that's like a super easy example. Because when you're sick, nobody wants to be sick right? And so, and a lot of us don't have time to be sick right like. Let's be over. Y'all, we don't have time to be sick, but we tend to resist being sick, and then what happens is, the sickness persists right? So it is, then kind of coming on stronger. or we're resisting it so much so that it's all we're thinking about. It's like, I think of that. Analogy. I don't know if you when you're driving a car. If you were learning to drive a car or anything, if you learned that like, if you're driving your car and it starts to like, it's raining and you start to swerve or you lose control. And you're hydro planning. and there's like a telephone poll or something coming up. And you're like, don't let me hit the telephone, Poll. Don't let me hit the telephone pole, and like there could be like a field right like a huge field. And there's 1 telephone poll, and all you can think about is, don't let me hit the telephone pole. And what happens? You hit the telephone pole right? Because that's all you were thinking about. Like, you know, it goes back to. I feel like, I say this thing every week. But where focus goes, energy flows. And that is so true because we're thinking about the telephone pulse of what are we gonna get? We're gonna get the telephone pole right? Whereas if you were thinking of, I'm steering clear, I'm steering clear. I'm going straight into the field like. That's where you're aiming for. That's where you're looking. That's where your intention is. That's where you're gonna go right. But we don't think of like we are resisting being sick right? We don't think of. Well, that's where we want to go right. We don't think of like saying we're not gonna resist being sick right like. I always just deny that I'm sick, right like, if if anyone asks like I'm not sick, right? I that's how I deal with being sick is I'm not sick right like, unless someone makes me like Take Covid test or something. And then it proves that I'm sick. I'm not sick right like I'm I am telling myself I'm not sick. But I heard this said by a coach of mine this past week that you should actually embrace it instead of resisting the sickness, embrace it. and what will happen is then it will go away because you're embracing it like, you're like, heck. Yeah, I'm getting sick, like, you know you're you're not really excited about that. But what he's saying is, embrace it like, embrace the sickness, embrace the fact that you are going to. He was like using the example of like strep throat. I think he was like, yes, Strep, bring it on, bring it on like he was like encouraging the strap right? And he says, what happens is it's going to go away and it was amazing cause it was like a bunch of us that were on this that were on this call and some people were sick, and they came back like, I can't even tell you how many people came back and said that. And he said it. You know it's not gonna just like instantaneously go away. But like the next day you will feel so much better and like. It was amazing. The stories of people who the next day were feeling so much better like, and even things that were like actual viruses and things they were like. They said they were like 80% better, like the virus wasn't all the way gone or whatever. But like they felt amazing with the virus even happening right? So it is like Proven. And I and I have another quote. I'm gonna share immediately, because this one is it's actually I found it on live life, happy com. and it goes like a step further than what you resist persists. It actually use that quote. But then it says, what you fight you get more of, and what you embrace dissolves, what you embrace, dissolves. And so it's reinforcing that point right? And I started to think about it in the and this is kind of like, I I think I'm gonna read another quote. I'm gonna read one more quote here, and this one is Steven pressfield, and it says, the more important an activity is to your soul's evolution, the more resistance, you will feel. So. This is like taking it from the opposite right, like taking it from something you actually want in your life. But you're actually resistant. And and it says that the more important and activity is to your soul's evolution meaning for you going to the next level right your soul's evolution, the more resistance you will feel. And why is that right? It's because we don't like change right? Like we, as people for the most part, like, I know I'm a little strange. I like change, but even me change can like freak out sometimes, and sometimes I don't even realize it. Right like this is the. This is the like epiphany that I had about my business, and about things like going to the next level, and this like innate fear, or something that we have. Maybe it's a fear of failure. Maybe it's a fear of success. Maybe, whatever it is inside of you that is resisting. taking yourself to that next level, because of all the changes that are gonna have to happen in order for you to get there. Or maybe the changes that happen once you do get there right. But you know that's what you want, you know that's what's best for you and with this, what came to mind was. you know, when I was pregnant with Michaela. So my number 2, like I already had my 1st baby, and I loved her like. You know that when you have your 1st baby, you just don't even understand the amount of love that you could have for another thing, another human, another anything like you, the amount of love that you feel for that child is indescribable like. You cannot describe it unless you are a mother and I remember being pregnant with Michaela, my number 2, child, and thinking like, Oh, my gosh! Am I going to be able to love him or her cause at the time I didn't know if I was having a boy or a girl, but I was like thinking like a I'm not going to be able to love her or him. I now know it's a her, so I'm using her as much as I already love Gabriela like. I didn't know if I was going to be able to do that, and I was like fearful of it. like I wanted to love her as much. But, like I you know you can't. It's not something that I even knew that I was going to have that much love in the 1st place, right? But I thought. how is it possible that I'm going to be able to love her as much as my 1st daughter, right like, how is it possible? Like it's just seemed impossible to me. And yet I knew. That's what I wanted. I knew I wanted another child like I knew I wanted a whole family. I knew I wanted Gabriela to have a sister, you know all of these things, but it would. There was something in me that was like fearful that I was going to have this other child that I was going to have to find it in me to love this other child as much, and I wanted to love her as much. But what had to happen right. I had to just lean in, and I think I may have said at the beginning the word surrender, and if I didn't, I like. I don't know where that came from, like I know where it came from, because that is the word that I think that we need to do like. It's the opposite right of resistance is surrender, and that is something where you have to just lean in. And I said before, embrace it right, but just surrendering a lot of times that fear and letting your instincts, or letting life like embracing sickness like don't surrender to the sickness right like. Don't surrender to it. I'm not saying that like when you're resisting something that you don't want, you don't want to surrender to it. You want to embrace it. You want to like you want to draw it in, and you want to embrace it right. But when you are, when you are resistant to something that you do want. You want to surrender your fears, and you want to surrender. That resistance at that point, right. Instead of embracing it. you want to surrender it and give it over, and then you can lean in to what is truly in your heart and your innate desire, and your innate passion, your innate love. All of those things are gonna kick in. And it's going to. Then you're gonna be able to make the change. Then you're gonna be able to like in my case, like I, just at some point, I was like, Okay. like, I have to surrender this to God and be like God, listen! I am worried about this, but I know that this that you know this is all going to be all good and everything's gonna work out. And so I didn't sit there and worry about it the whole time, like I let these things, and I actually even verbalize them. I believe I told. I remember I have a con conversation with my dad about it about these feelings I was feeling, and just again like having that conversation. And sometimes when you say things right. You say it, and you realize how ridiculous it sounds. But like he actually understood, like he understood what I meant, and that felt good that he understood it right, but he also was like, you know, just telling him was just a release for me, and it helped me to be able to surrender it right. And so And so what you resist persists, and when you don't want, when you you know, you don't want the thing, we want to embrace it. And when you do want the thing, you want to surrender it. And I hope that makes sense right like I'm gonna read another quote here because and this is another Eckert Tolle quote, which I had an Eckert Tolle quote last week, and I said he was a philosopher. He's not. He's like, he's an author. A very smart man, but he's not a philosopher, so, anyway, to offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. And isn't that what we want? Right? We want to be in a state of grace. We want to be in a state of ease. We want to be in a state of lightness. We want all of these things for ourselves, right? And we know ourselves like, I always talk about finding our true North. That's like my. My hope for everyone here is that you're able to find that true North, that that thing, that motivating set of values, that motivating whether it be a dream, or whether it just be a lifestyle or whatever it is that you want in your life, and let that those things you know, guide you in your life, and let them guide your decisions and let them guide everything that you do but we want to be in this state of grace, ease, and lightness. And what happens is is when we're resisting what we actually want. We are not able to be there. So we are tending to live in this stress and overwhelm and you know this heaviness right? Like we feel heavy and burdened all the time, and it's because we are not acting in alignment. Going back to another episode. You guys, I feel like all of my episodes tend to build on one another, and you can listen to them. Stand alone, but they are so helpful like if you go back and listen to some of my other episodes just about aligned flow. It's just it all works together, and you're able to be in aligned flow, and you're able to, you know. walk around in this straight state of grace and ease and lightness, and not be in this resistance and fear. But you have to be willing to surrender right or willing to embrace the suck like? Have you heard that one before? Embrace the suck like, embrace the sickness, embrace the suck because it dissolves, it winds up dissolving things that are that are opposites can exist together you always. I know. I don't know if you've heard it before, but when you say fear and love can't exist at the same time, so you cannot be operating from a place of love and be in fear. It's not possible the one cancels the other out. So if you are in total fear, you are not finding a place for love right? And if you are in love, then you aren't finding a place for fear. Right? That's when you know, like, say, you are in. You're in total love with someone you're not finding that place of fear. You're able to surrender. You're able to trust them, you're able to be vulnerable. You're able to communicate without abandoning and to show them love without caring. If they, if they give it back to you right? Because you're operating in love and not from fear. So like that totally just went off topic kind of. But it's the same. It is the same like you are not. It all goes together. It all works together, you guys, and I hope I'm driving this point home to you. And I wanna say one more thing, because this is where I feel like that some people can get like and where I may have been living, and why resistance is something that I didn't see as necessarily a bad thing, right? And I'm gonna read a quote from Henry Ford, and it says, when everything seems to be going against you. Remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it right? The airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. And so that's resistance, right like that, creates a resistance, and in that case the resistance is good because it needs to take off against the wind, and sometimes to rise to that higher level. We need the resistance, and the resistance is there so that we can change right. Resistance is the 1st step to change. That's another quote I had. I have tons of quotes that I found on resistance that are so good, but that was is Louise, Louise. Hay and resistance is the 1st step to change, so resistance is innate. We are going to feel it. I'm not saying it's something that we shouldn't feel. But what we should let it do is to work for us right? Embrace it like that plane is going into the wind. It's yes, it's resisting it, but it's using that to take it to the next level. Y'all. it's using it to take us to the next level. So resistance is the 1st step to change. So when you feel the resistance lean in. lean in, and whether you embrace it, or whether you surrender to it either way, it it is going to be the thing that can take you out of it that takes you through it. Okay, you guys, I am so excited I have so much coming up on the podcast. We have some exciting guests coming. I'm going to probably start dropping 2 episodes a week. So I hope this landed with you. I hope you'll tune in and share this with any of your friends that you think this episode may help. and I'll see you next week.  

​Welcome back, mamas or welcome to any new mamas we may have with us today, you guys, I have something for you today that if you know, if you follow the podcast if you listen on a regular basis, you know that I like to relate this to my life and what is going on in my life. And what has happened this past week? Has really like. And really, I can go back and say weeks and years, really, if you think about it. But what has happened? What happened last weekend with one of my daughters is the inspiration behind this episode today. And I wanna talk about you know I talk about tuning into your body and tuning into your feelings and getting like that. Check that intuition or whatnot. And I talk about it a lot. But I don't know if we truly realize the impact that our emotions, what we're feeling when things are out of alignment with the way that our emotions and our actions, like what our mind, our body, and like our emotions, are all in alignment. Things tend to go better right? And when they're out of alignment, they don't. And okay, I'm not. I'm going to get right to the point. Oh, but I want to start with a quote, right? Okay? So my 1st quote is going to be from Brian Tracy and Brian Tracy says, just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment. you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. and he says, Balance, I I like to say alignment. I don't like to use the word balance. I feel like balance was overused. I'm sure you've heard me say that before, but balance was overused, and it was kind of like this game, right? Where things had to be equal when you balance something right. You think about things being equal on both sides. But what I have discovered is that really what you're looking for is alignment. And when everything is kind of lined up when you know what your true North is, and everything is kind of pointing in that direction, that things can be out of balance in your life like you might be more focused on one area of your life than the other. a particular moment based on what's going on in your life. But if everything that you, your you know, let's go back to what Brian Tracy said. Like your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, your goals, your values. If those are aligned. even though you might be more focused on work at the moment than you are on family, or whatever it is, as long as everything is pointing towards that true North. Then you are performing better. Right you are in alignment, and it is good for your body. Now, what happened over the weekend that made me want to talk about. This was so, and this is really like I would have never. I would have never come up with this the way that I did if I hadn't had a prior experience of this. But I felt like it was so impactful that I needed to share it with you guys. So on Thursday I'm gonna go back to Thursday. We were throwing a surprise 50th wedding anniversary party for my parents. Okay, and it was so much fun like they had a blast. It was amazing, right? But the ruse or the way we got them there was my children. Okay, we use them. They were fully like willing and wanting to participate. And but what what we did was we created a lie right? Like, we created this lie. We we said that Scott and I were going to dinner for our wedding anniversary, which was last week, and we said that we asked them if they could watch the kids right for an overnight, which is totally. We do that all the time, like they love to watch the kids. And so what had also happened was, my daughter had had her end of year picnic canceled at her school, and so she came up with this idea my oldest daughter came up with this idea that they would do a redo of this party that they were supposed to have at the park with my parents, and that's how we are. Gonna get them to the park because the party was at this this place called. It was like a big house at the Park that we you can rent out for, like events, or whatever it's like this nice house. It's kind of indoor and outdoor spaces gorgeous, and we rented it for their party. But how are we gonna get them there right like, how like, what was, how are we gonna do this. And so, my children, we're gonna get them there like they they were like, we can get them there, you know, whatever. We'll just go to the Park and whatever. Then my daughter came up with this idea for the redo of this party, and she had, like a schedule which this is not unlike her to. She invites them. She makes invitations like she uses canva. She likes to do stuff like this, and so she made them an invitation to this redo end of Year celebration party, and she made a schedule, and they were supposed to come over to the White House. And so my kids had to. You know, they weren't lying the whole time, but they were definitely lying right. And so you know, telling them things to get them to go, you know or telling them. You know, they thought they were gonna eat pizza, and they were gonna order the pizza. And you know my mom and dad are packing all this like extra food, because my mom knows that like, I'm not just gonna let the kids eat pizza. I'm gonna wanna have them to have like some fruit or vegetables, or whatever with it. So my mom's packing a cooler and like the whole thing right. And so, my my youngest daughter is the one who we told her, just to pretend like she cannot lie like she does not lie like she won't lie. You can't get her to break rules like she is my rule follower. I love it great, but you know, for this instant instance I told her to pretend like she was acting, you know, because they both like drama and acting. I was like, just pretend like you're acting right. And so you have to get on. G, Dad to the park. You have to get on to the inside of this party and And so they did right. And when they did it was amazing like they did a great job. My parents never like thought anything of it until, like it was literally like they were walking into the place because my kids, the way they wound up. Getting them to go inside was like they were like my parents knew there was a party going on because we had shut the blinds and everything so they couldn't see that it was us. But you know it was very clear that there was people inside this house, and there were cars everywhere, you know, and my parents and my my girls were talking about wanting to go inside and check out this house. and my parents were like, you can't go in there. There's obviously a party, and all of a sudden my girls just yell party crashers, and they go running into the house, and they didn't come back out right. So my parents had no choice but to follow them into this house, and at that point that's like totally out of character for my kids. They were kind of like, what's what's going on like what is really going on. But we they had no idea that that was going to happen, and they got like kind of a wind of it, I think, right then, but like when they walked in and saw it, they were just in complete shock. And the scope of it like there was almost a hundred people there like it was crazy, but it was so fun, too, but like things that people were saying to my girls was a great job, like great job lying, you know. Great job getting them there. Great job keeping it up, you know. People were starting to say things like my dad even said it like they're either gonna be great actresses or great con artists and like my dad even said, like to me, like, you're in trouble like. and meaning like when they get older, like they're gonna be able to lie really well, and you know, because they had no idea they did not catch on to the whole thing, and they had even we had even had to make up something about what had happened earlier in the day, because my dad was gonna take them earlier. And so they had to like come up with this complete story, which I didn't even know about until after the fact that they had to lie about making up this story, and they made up this chandelier that they saw, and like they were explaining it in detail, and like, I do not know how they kept this thing going. They did. Amazing. But the point is is that my youngest daughter was not okay with that right? She was not okay with the lying. She was not okay with like people saying the things about her that they did, and no one was being like people were, you know. It was supposed to be a good thing, but like she felt very conflicted, and I didn't find this out until the next day, right till like Saturday. So this happened on Thursday, and I didn't find this out until Saturday, when I finally figured this out, but she was very conflicted about people saying good job for like lying and being like proud of them, for like lying right. And so it was. Just she was like, it was just weird, right, mom, it was just weird. So what happened was on Friday afternoon. She started to get a headache. and then she didn't really say anything to me, but she was acting a little different. And then by the evening. We dinner and she we were. We always do movie night if we can, on Friday nights. And so we were having like popcorn, and she normally is like eating or popcorn and having a good time with the movie. And she was just kind of like not really eating the popcorn. And my husband was like. You know, Michaela, are you doing okay? And she was just like, I don't know. And she looked at me, and I was like what's going on, and she was like my head hurts. I don't know. I just my stomach feels weird, and I was like, well, let's just not eat the popcorn, you know. Are you okay? And I like put my hand on her head, and it was little warm, but it wasn't like hot at all. It was just kind of like. No, you don't have fever. and so you know, I'm like here, just lay down on me. We're do some tapping I was tapping on our head and doing like we like to do that kind of stuff tapping. And this whole thing is a little woo right right. But I'm telling you guys it's so true. It's so true. When you're out of alignment. So bottom line bottom line, she winds up getting sick. She winds up getting sick, you know, throwing up, and then she feels a lot better right? And she her head is still hurting a tiny, tiny bit. But I was like, let's just go to bed, you know. So you know, we had finished the rest of the movie and and then she got sick. And then I was like, Okay, let's go to bed and and you know it was a little bit earlier than she would have normally gone to bed, but we were just like, let's go to bed, and you'll feel better in the morning. I have a feeling, because you know, if your head doesn't hurt anymore. It most likely we I was trying to figure out what it was right. And so we are thinking about everything she ate. It was the same as everyone else, or at least her sister or my husband, you know, like they had had the same pizza, and like all the things, so we were like ruling everything out, and next morning I woke up, and it like dawned on me, and the reason that it dawned on me that this was what made her sick is because years ago, and I believe I've told this part of this story before. But my oldest daughter was taking dance class, and she would always complain when she came in from school, that she had to get ready for dance, and she didn't complain until like halfway through the year right? So it was like the second half of the year. She was complaining about dance class, and I was like, you know, I always made her go right like we commit to something. We do it right. So I always made her go, and when she came home we would talk about it, and she really enjoyed dance like she would say, Yeah, I had a great time. We had fun. I liked it, you know, Da Da, Da, but she never wanted to go when she got him from school, like it was always like a chore to get her to go, but then, when she was there, she like had fun, and she would say she liked it. and everything. But what kept happening was she was getting this my, these migraines, and she would get them. After she came home from dance we would be eating dinner, and all of a sudden she would get a huge, hard headache like a really bad headache, and then she would throw up, and then she would be better after like a lot better. Her head would still hurt her like pretty decently, and then the next morning she would be completely fine. Right? Well, these headaches always happened on a Wednesday, because after a while I started tracking it like the doctor was like, you need to start tracking when she's doing this. What is she eating, you know, da da da. And so I was tracking. It was always on a Wednesday, which is her dance night right? And it was always like a few weeks apart, like you know, like and always on a Wednesday night, and always the same exact story like she would feel sick. Her head would kill her like she would get sick, and then she would be fine the next day. and so I finally figured it out. I finally. My husband was like, you know, she always says she likes dance, but I really don't think she does, and she's been wanting to tell you that she doesn't want to take dance, but she doesn't want to tell you. And I was like, why doesn't she wanna tell me? And she and I was like, I don't know, or he was like, I'm not sure why she doesn't want to tell you, because I love dance right like I think that's why she don't wanna tell me. But, you guys, the point is that finally it. I figured it out like she didn't like going to dance, and so I ended up, felt out of alignment for her. So she loved dance. She loves singing. She loves dancing, but she didn't like the structure of the class she didn't like, and she was there for a long time like I can't remember. I feel like it was 2 h that she was there, and so she did not like the structure of it. She didn't like being, you know, like learning and having. She loves to dance like freestyle and do her own thing. But she did not love the class, and so And and she was also kind of good at it, right? So we never really put it together but once. My husband told me that. And then we started thinking about this. I was like, Oh, my gosh, she is getting sick because of dance, and you know my husband kind of thought it was crazy, but I literally called Gabriella down had a conversation with her. and it never happened again. After the conversation. the headaches, the migraines, they completely went away. After the conversation. She still had, like a month or a month and a half of dance left of the year, and we still said, Continue with the dance, but just talking about it alleviated migrants because they had gotten almost weekly by the end of it, like we. It was like they had gone like one a month like you know. And and those had started the year prior. So those had started before that, and we didn't even realize it until after Christmas, when she started complaining about it right? And so it was really crazy. How it was her being out of alignment with her emotions. with what she was feeling and what she was doing. like the 2 things were out of alignment. And so so we didn't realize this, or I didn't put 2 and 2 together until, like it, it started to become more often and more frequent, and because it was always on the Wednesday I finally put it together. But what was the craziest part of it was that it was just the conversation with us which, you know. I I talked to her about not wanting to continue dance and you know, not liking why she didn't like it, and what she didn't like about it, and what she did like about it, and you know. What she really wanted to do was she did want to perform in the recital like that was the one thing that she like was really excited about and always talked about, was wanting to perform in the recital, and so she loves to perform right. She just didn't like the structure of the dance class, and so and so just having the conversation about it with us was enough to stop the migraines. They never came back now. She did get a couple of migraines like years later, when she was going through puberty and those were like few and far between, and I think she got 2 migraines, and they weren't even as bad as the ones before, like the hormonal imbalance wasn't even as bad like she never actually physically got sick from those. But the emotional impact that it had on her body from being out of alignment with what she felt that she was supposed to do right was what was enough to cause her to become physically ill. This is what I want to. Just drive home is just that we don't think about this as parents right like, we are going a lot of times a million miles an hour, right? Like we have things going on, and sometimes our bodies are telling us things that. or our child. Our children's bodies are telling us things that we need to know. But we aren't tuning into. And so when I woke up on Saturday morning and started to think about you know, it was still bothering me like what was wrong with Michaela, like, you know. And when she woke up I was like she was like fine. She was jumping all around. She was being completely, you know, normal. And I brought her. I brought her in that morning, and I talked to her, and I said, Hey, I was wondering if if you know that bothered you, what everything that you had to do to get my parents to the party if that bothered you. and she was like, well, I mean, I didn't like doing it. I just thought it was really weird that everyone thought it was so great and was like saying so. She was like telling me exactly why it was bothering her. and she told me you know, that it did bother her, and that, you know she was like. At 1st she was kind of like. Well, it was. It was, you know. She was like kind of afraid to tell me even that it bothered her. And I was like, it's okay. I really believe that this might be why you had your migraine last night, and why or why your head hurt, and why you got sick. And she was like, really. And I was like, Yeah, so it's okay. If you tell me what what you're really feeling. And that's when she started talking. And again talking about it, you guys. 1st of all, she released it right. She released it by by getting it out of her body. By throwing up and by having the headache like those were her signs to herself that she was out of alignment, and had she just kept going like she would have been okay, right? But she would have stuffed it down. She, her body, would have learned how to deal with that right? And then it would have moved on, because that's what our bodies do right. But who knows what could have happened? Right like she could have been irritable, she could have been. There's lots of different ways that this stuff like piles up, and we are taught to kind of like, not really think in this way where you know I don't know why, but I feel like we're getting more in tune with it now, like what we put in our body, like the actual food that we eat has a big part in how we feel, but also how we feel, has a, you know, in our emotions and our thoughts and our beliefs, and what we tell ourself. And you know, all of this stuff has a huge impact on our physical body as well. Not just what we eat. It's what we think, like stress is the leading cause of most illness. The leading cause of most illness is stress, and we make ourselves sick by being stressed out. It's so unbelievably crazy to me that you know. Wellness, or this is like called woo woo right? Because it is really, if you think about it, it makes total sense, and I'm going to go ahead and read another quote. And this one it says, this is from I. I don't know how to how to say this, but I think it's a Yanla Ianma, EIYA NLAL. A. IYAN. LA. Yanzan or Vanzant. I don't know. It's a very it's a very. It's a script that I cannot read. I found it in 2 different places, and both times I'm not really sure of the, but it says when you are in alignment with the desires of your heart, things have a way of working out when you're in alignment with the desires of your heart things they have a way of working out. And it is so true because we, when we are in alignment. We're able to take this action. That's from this different place. And things have a way of working out. They just do because we're in alignment. We know where we're going. We are. We are operating in alignment. We are operating in such a way that you know I always talk about where focus goes, energy flows, and I say things like things like the way you do. One thing is the way you do everything right. And so it's so true, like we have to check in with ourselves. We have to and and you know I I am one who goes to the chiropractor. So physical alignment of your neck and back, and all of those things is super important, too, like there, if you're out of alignment in your spine and your hips, you know there's all kinds of problems that can happen in your body when you're out of alignment. But it's also internal emotional thoughts, beliefs, actions when those are out of alignment. That is also something that could send you out of alignment in your body, out of, you know. Make things not the way that you want them to be for your child children or for yourself. Right? And so I'm gonna read one more quote, and this one is from Eckert Toll. And it says, when the basis for your actions, this one is deep, so this one requires some thinking right. So when the basis for your actions is in our alignment. With the present moment your actions become empowered by the intelligence of life itself. Okay, I'm gonna read it one more time, because that one's deep when the basis for your actions is inner alignment with the present moment your actions become empowered by the intelligence of life itself. So it's basically saying that when you're in line with what you're doing when you're aligned with your present moment, when you're acting in such a way that is in alignment with your present moment like if you're acting in such a way that is not in alignment with your present moment, like Michaela lying, or like Gabriela, not wanting to dance, but being at dance right it it it becomes this thing that is hindering you. It becomes this thing that it does not empower you right. It does the opposite of that. And it's so. It says, your actions become empowered by the intelligence of life itself. And so it's basically saying that God. The universe, you know, like everything, knows when you're acting out of alignment. And so you're not able to be empowered like you can empower yourself by acting in alignment. It's so powerful. This is Eckert Toll. Right? He's the one who said this, and like I'm pretty sure he is a very smart philosopher, and so unless I'm thinking of the wrong person. But I am so. I believe in this so much that I wanted to take this. You know I I feel like I've gone a little long on this episode, but I feel like it's well worth it. And the stories really drive home the point that I'm trying to make, which is like this whole work that I'm that I'm you know. I'm trying to do this work of finding your true north, and then going towards that and moving in the direction, and using that as your guide as your compass. This is so important in so many respects. It's important to you. It's important to you as a mother, as a person. It's important to your children like it is so important. And I want to leave you with just the nudge to really check in with that, to check in with your alignment. And if you need help in any area of this work that you need to do like in order to discover all of this, because it wasn't something that I was able to discover overnight. It wasn't really something that I was even in tune with myself. When I was going through all of this myself. But it is been something that I have been dedicated to for the last few years of my life, and that I have been a so so incredibly much happier person once I've been acting in alignment with what I want for my life for my family. and so I implore you to just check in with yourself and see and see if that is, you know, if you've been sick in your body, if you have been you know, physically like sick, or even if you know you've ailments, and you've been in pain like these are all things that we do, and they're indicators that your body is giving you that, especially when the doctor, you know, if there there could. Obviously, if you cut your finger, you're going to be in pain right? And that is like physically, you're in pain from cutting your finger right? But I'm talking about. If you can't figure out what the pain is in your body, or why you're having it. It could have something to do with this. So I'm gonna leave you with that until next week. Y'all.