Leaning Into Change: The Power of Embracing Resistance ~ Episode #41 ~ June 13, 2024

Welcome back, mamas, or welcome to any new mamas we may have with us today. You guys, I want to talk to you this week about something again that has been just like a theme through the last week of my life that I now want to share with you, because I believe that it is it's something that I've always known. Again. I feel like I've been sharing these things with you that I've always known. But I'm getting like to a deeper level with lately. And it's this It's this concept of surrendering. And we I'm gonna start with a quote that that is from Carl Gustav Jung. Who says what you resist persists? What you resist persists. Now we've all heard that right, like what you resist, persist. But what does it mean? And like? How do we take the knowledge of that? What you resist persists and use it to help us. So what I want to? I'm gonna start off with a couple of stories like things that came to mind and that are just coming to mind right now. That I want to use as examples to drive home this point of what you resist persists, and how we can use that to our advantage. Right? Because what we're resisting a lot of times is something that we don't want. But sometimes what we're resisting is actually something that we do want, that we don't even know that we're resisting it, or we know we're resisting it. But we don't know why. So the 1st example I'm going to use is like something that we don't want right like. So when we are sick, right? And we don't want to be sick. So that's like a super easy example. Because when you're sick, nobody wants to be sick right? And so, and a lot of us don't have time to be sick right like. Let's be over. Y'all, we don't have time to be sick, but we tend to resist being sick, and then what happens is, the sickness persists right? So it is, then kind of coming on stronger. or we're resisting it so much so that it's all we're thinking about. It's like, I think of that. Analogy. I don't know if you when you're driving a car. If you were learning to drive a car or anything, if you learned that like, if you're driving your car and it starts to like, it's raining and you start to swerve or you lose control. And you're hydro planning. and there's like a telephone poll or something coming up. And you're like, don't let me hit the telephone, Poll. Don't let me hit the telephone pole, and like there could be like a field right like a huge field. And there's 1 telephone poll, and all you can think about is, don't let me hit the telephone pole. And what happens? You hit the telephone pole right? Because that's all you were thinking about. Like, you know, it goes back to. I feel like, I say this thing every week. But where focus goes, energy flows. And that is so true because we're thinking about the telephone pulse of what are we gonna get? We're gonna get the telephone pole right? Whereas if you were thinking of, I'm steering clear, I'm steering clear. I'm going straight into the field like. That's where you're aiming for. That's where you're looking. That's where your intention is. That's where you're gonna go right. But we don't think of like we are resisting being sick right? We don't think of. Well, that's where we want to go right. We don't think of like saying we're not gonna resist being sick right like. I always just deny that I'm sick, right like, if if anyone asks like I'm not sick, right? I that's how I deal with being sick is I'm not sick right like, unless someone makes me like Take Covid test or something. And then it proves that I'm sick. I'm not sick right like I'm I am telling myself I'm not sick. But I heard this said by a coach of mine this past week that you should actually embrace it instead of resisting the sickness, embrace it. and what will happen is then it will go away because you're embracing it like, you're like, heck. Yeah, I'm getting sick, like, you know you're you're not really excited about that. But what he's saying is, embrace it like, embrace the sickness, embrace the fact that you are going to. He was like using the example of like strep throat. I think he was like, yes, Strep, bring it on, bring it on like he was like encouraging the strap right? And he says, what happens is it's going to go away and it was amazing cause it was like a bunch of us that were on this that were on this call and some people were sick, and they came back like, I can't even tell you how many people came back and said that. And he said it. You know it's not gonna just like instantaneously go away. But like the next day you will feel so much better and like. It was amazing. The stories of people who the next day were feeling so much better like, and even things that were like actual viruses and things they were like. They said they were like 80% better, like the virus wasn't all the way gone or whatever. But like they felt amazing with the virus even happening right? So it is like Proven. And I and I have another quote. I'm gonna share immediately, because this one is it's actually I found it on live life, happy com. and it goes like a step further than what you resist persists. It actually use that quote. But then it says, what you fight you get more of, and what you embrace dissolves, what you embrace, dissolves. And so it's reinforcing that point right? And I started to think about it in the and this is kind of like, I I think I'm gonna read another quote. I'm gonna read one more quote here, and this one is Steven pressfield, and it says, the more important an activity is to your soul's evolution, the more resistance, you will feel. So. This is like taking it from the opposite right, like taking it from something you actually want in your life. But you're actually resistant. And and it says that the more important and activity is to your soul's evolution meaning for you going to the next level right your soul's evolution, the more resistance you will feel. And why is that right? It's because we don't like change right? Like we, as people for the most part, like, I know I'm a little strange. I like change, but even me change can like freak out sometimes, and sometimes I don't even realize it. Right like this is the. This is the like epiphany that I had about my business, and about things like going to the next level, and this like innate fear, or something that we have. Maybe it's a fear of failure. Maybe it's a fear of success. Maybe, whatever it is inside of you that is resisting. taking yourself to that next level, because of all the changes that are gonna have to happen in order for you to get there. Or maybe the changes that happen once you do get there right. But you know that's what you want, you know that's what's best for you and with this, what came to mind was. you know, when I was pregnant with Michaela. So my number 2, like I already had my 1st baby, and I loved her like. You know that when you have your 1st baby, you just don't even understand the amount of love that you could have for another thing, another human, another anything like you, the amount of love that you feel for that child is indescribable like. You cannot describe it unless you are a mother and I remember being pregnant with Michaela, my number 2, child, and thinking like, Oh, my gosh! Am I going to be able to love him or her cause at the time I didn't know if I was having a boy or a girl, but I was like thinking like a I'm not going to be able to love her or him. I now know it's a her, so I'm using her as much as I already love Gabriela like. I didn't know if I was going to be able to do that, and I was like fearful of it. like I wanted to love her as much. But, like I you know you can't. It's not something that I even knew that I was going to have that much love in the 1st place, right? But I thought. how is it possible that I'm going to be able to love her as much as my 1st daughter, right like, how is it possible? Like it's just seemed impossible to me. And yet I knew. That's what I wanted. I knew I wanted another child like I knew I wanted a whole family. I knew I wanted Gabriela to have a sister, you know all of these things, but it would. There was something in me that was like fearful that I was going to have this other child that I was going to have to find it in me to love this other child as much, and I wanted to love her as much. But what had to happen right. I had to just lean in, and I think I may have said at the beginning the word surrender, and if I didn't, I like. I don't know where that came from, like I know where it came from, because that is the word that I think that we need to do like. It's the opposite right of resistance is surrender, and that is something where you have to just lean in. And I said before, embrace it right, but just surrendering a lot of times that fear and letting your instincts, or letting life like embracing sickness like don't surrender to the sickness right like. Don't surrender to it. I'm not saying that like when you're resisting something that you don't want, you don't want to surrender to it. You want to embrace it. You want to like you want to draw it in, and you want to embrace it right. But when you are, when you are resistant to something that you do want. You want to surrender your fears, and you want to surrender. That resistance at that point, right. Instead of embracing it. you want to surrender it and give it over, and then you can lean in to what is truly in your heart and your innate desire, and your innate passion, your innate love. All of those things are gonna kick in. And it's going to. Then you're gonna be able to make the change. Then you're gonna be able to like in my case, like I, just at some point, I was like, Okay. like, I have to surrender this to God and be like God, listen! I am worried about this, but I know that this that you know this is all going to be all good and everything's gonna work out. And so I didn't sit there and worry about it the whole time, like I let these things, and I actually even verbalize them. I believe I told. I remember I have a con conversation with my dad about it about these feelings I was feeling, and just again like having that conversation. And sometimes when you say things right. You say it, and you realize how ridiculous it sounds. But like he actually understood, like he understood what I meant, and that felt good that he understood it right, but he also was like, you know, just telling him was just a release for me, and it helped me to be able to surrender it right. And so And so what you resist persists, and when you don't want, when you you know, you don't want the thing, we want to embrace it. And when you do want the thing, you want to surrender it. And I hope that makes sense right like I'm gonna read another quote here because and this is another Eckert Tolle quote, which I had an Eckert Tolle quote last week, and I said he was a philosopher. He's not. He's like, he's an author. A very smart man, but he's not a philosopher, so, anyway, to offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. And isn't that what we want? Right? We want to be in a state of grace. We want to be in a state of ease. We want to be in a state of lightness. We want all of these things for ourselves, right? And we know ourselves like, I always talk about finding our true North. That's like my. My hope for everyone here is that you're able to find that true North, that that thing, that motivating set of values, that motivating whether it be a dream, or whether it just be a lifestyle or whatever it is that you want in your life, and let that those things you know, guide you in your life, and let them guide your decisions and let them guide everything that you do but we want to be in this state of grace, ease, and lightness. And what happens is is when we're resisting what we actually want. We are not able to be there. So we are tending to live in this stress and overwhelm and you know this heaviness right? Like we feel heavy and burdened all the time, and it's because we are not acting in alignment. Going back to another episode. You guys, I feel like all of my episodes tend to build on one another, and you can listen to them. Stand alone, but they are so helpful like if you go back and listen to some of my other episodes just about aligned flow. It's just it all works together, and you're able to be in aligned flow, and you're able to, you know. walk around in this straight state of grace and ease and lightness, and not be in this resistance and fear. But you have to be willing to surrender right or willing to embrace the suck like? Have you heard that one before? Embrace the suck like, embrace the sickness, embrace the suck because it dissolves, it winds up dissolving things that are that are opposites can exist together you always. I know. I don't know if you've heard it before, but when you say fear and love can't exist at the same time, so you cannot be operating from a place of love and be in fear. It's not possible the one cancels the other out. So if you are in total fear, you are not finding a place for love right? And if you are in love, then you aren't finding a place for fear. Right? That's when you know, like, say, you are in. You're in total love with someone you're not finding that place of fear. You're able to surrender. You're able to trust them, you're able to be vulnerable. You're able to communicate without abandoning and to show them love without caring. If they, if they give it back to you right? Because you're operating in love and not from fear. So like that totally just went off topic kind of. But it's the same. It is the same like you are not. It all goes together. It all works together, you guys, and I hope I'm driving this point home to you. And I wanna say one more thing, because this is where I feel like that some people can get like and where I may have been living, and why resistance is something that I didn't see as necessarily a bad thing, right? And I'm gonna read a quote from Henry Ford, and it says, when everything seems to be going against you. Remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it right? The airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. And so that's resistance, right like that, creates a resistance, and in that case the resistance is good because it needs to take off against the wind, and sometimes to rise to that higher level. We need the resistance, and the resistance is there so that we can change right. Resistance is the 1st step to change. That's another quote I had. I have tons of quotes that I found on resistance that are so good, but that was is Louise, Louise. Hay and resistance is the 1st step to change, so resistance is innate. We are going to feel it. I'm not saying it's something that we shouldn't feel. But what we should let it do is to work for us right? Embrace it like that plane is going into the wind. It's yes, it's resisting it, but it's using that to take it to the next level. Y'all. it's using it to take us to the next level. So resistance is the 1st step to change. So when you feel the resistance lean in. lean in, and whether you embrace it, or whether you surrender to it either way, it it is going to be the thing that can take you out of it that takes you through it. Okay, you guys, I am so excited I have so much coming up on the podcast. We have some exciting guests coming. I'm going to probably start dropping 2 episodes a week. So I hope this landed with you. I hope you'll tune in and share this with any of your friends that you think this episode may help. and I'll see you next week.